Post # 1
Is anyone else feeling huge waiting mood swings? Yesterday I felt happy and just glad to be making baby steps with my SO, today I feel depressed and keep torturing myself by thinking he does not really love me. (Just my insecurity/fears about not being good enough– he’s very affectionate and says he loves me all the time) Do you feel this way? What’s a girl to do?
Post # 3
Yes this happens to me all the time. Today I am having a good waiting day however you should have seen me Saturday…. complete disaster. Until I came on these boards not too long ago I thought I was crazy. Now I realize it happens to all of us during this waiting period its a rocky road 🙁
Post # 4
@blueberries123: totally a rocky road!! i’m stress eating cereal right now!!
Post # 5
I agree, absolutely a rocky road of emotions
Post # 6
All.the.time. Yes. Mine is like a very viscious circle.
Boyfriend or Best Friend and I will have a really super awesome weekend whre we hang out, have no problems, and he’s super sweet and we’re so happy. And so I go into Monday all giddy and happy and so excited for the future and “let’s just enjoy this phase right now!”
and that leads me into like..ok if we’re so happy, why can’t we get married? It’s all I want, we’re perfect for each other, and we can spend all weekend just doing nothing together and being as happy as we can be..where’s the problem? And then I start focusing on the problems..him and his job, saving up for a ring, will he come live with me? etc., etc. And then I’m just a bucket of depressed and sad and blaming him for not loving me enough to care about our future..I get really upset and spend some nights by myself, and clear my head a bit, talk to him a bit, realize I overreacted, and then we heal it back up. And then we hang out and it’s great again! But soon after, start the cycle over again. Basically, waiting makes me BAT SHIT CRAZY! Lord help us all if this happens when I’m on my period..
Anyways, I sort of have gotten this under control recently, I guess just by realizing it. It helps a lot to understand why you’re feeling that way. I try not to take it out on him anymore. I’ll let him know that I’m having a sad day and just want some time alone, but I try not to place blame. I don’t lie and say everything is super, but I don’t want to lash out at him like I had been. It’s better for our relationship that way, but it still sucks.. I just try to make it “me” time where I just chill out and destress. I make cookies and drink some wine and read a book in a bubble bath. Wish I had better advice, but I know exactly how you feel!