Moral Dilemma – WWYD?

posted 7 months ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 2
2023 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Personally, I would call or email then and let them know. I would HATE to spend that money then it hits my account and then scramble to cover that cost. 

Post # 3
2314 posts
Buzzing bee

You’ve already sent an email to them to let them know that you were never charged and that they need to check their records.  There isn’t much more you can do other than wait for them to either charge your card or not charge your card.


Post # 4
4759 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

kimmacph :  you did the right thing by emailing them. You owe the money. I would have done the same, even though that money IS tempting, you agreed to pay it 

ETA, I wouldn’t pocket it if it was a big hotel chain either. That’s just me though, I’m honest to a fault most of the time 

Post # 5
1020 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

kimmacph :  can’t you send them a check? You can’t force them to charge your card, but I wouldn’t want to be surprised one day by a charge either.

Post # 6
4600 posts
Honey bee

kimmacph :  Well you’ve already sent them an email. I would likely call and confirm that they received the email and ask what to do next. Id double check that nothing was pending first. 

  • This reply was modified 6 months, 4 weeks ago by  sweatergal007.
Post # 7
382 posts
Helper bee

I agree you should try to get this straightened out as soon as possible. You don’t want to assume you’re in the clear and spend that money, then suddenly get hit with a bill from them

Post # 8
748 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I would have definitely called them. Not only were they awesome and had a hand in making your wedding super special. You definitely owe it to them to be honest. I especially would be afraid of a sudden 1500 charge hitting my card when I am not prepared for it – for a grad student like me, that would be a complete nightmare. My poor husband would have to pull that out of his checking account instead of the money we had set aside for wedding expenses. 

But also, it’s just good karma. 

Post # 9
3090 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

I’d wait a day or two to see if they respond to your email and, if not, phone. It could have ended up in their spam folder or you might have had a typo in the address, etc.

Post # 10
263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

There’s reallly nothing more you can do other than call if it’s really bothering you. You emailed them, you wait for their response. Don’t spend it until you hear from them. 

Post # 11
5959 posts
Bee Keeper

They provided a service, you owe them payment. Full stop. Its shady AF to consider keeping the money. Its basically theft.

I had a work event back in June that I’ve been hounding for an invoice and to charge my card. They JUST charged it 11/15. So 6 months. Yes, it’s their responsibility to take payment, but its MY responsibility to make sure I pay them. Frustrating, but necessary imo. 

Post # 12
596 posts
Busy bee

Call them. Remind them to take the payment. 

Post # 13
6035 posts
Bee Keeper

Call them. Treat them the way you would hope they would treat you (or your child) if the shoe was on the other foot. 

1) It’s never wrong to do the right thing. 2.) You don’t want to open your mail one day to find a letter from a lawyer or collection agency. 3.) Someone at the hypothetical hotel chain could lose their job if such an error was discovered–don’t assume there are no small consequences for screwing over big business. Loop back to 1. 

Post # 14
10035 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

kimmacph :  I would give them a call about it, and I would definitely pay.  No question.  If you don’t that’s called stealing.

Post # 15
484 posts
Helper bee

kimmacph :  Yikes. I would absolutely pay them. This is $1500 we’re talking about, not Chipotle forgot to charge you for guac. It’s the only ethical thing to do.

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