- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
A couple days ago my fiance told me that he would be more attracted to me if I were skinny. I’m not huge or anything, although I used to be. He knew me in high school when I weighed 240lbs and obviously, we were just friends back then. Three years ago, after I lost 80lbs, we were working at the same place and reconnected. Now we’re getting married in 29 days.
I’m 5’9” 160lbs. I wear a size 8-10. I work out almost everyday, and I eat very healthily. We’re talking protein shakes, salads, chicken, fish, and vegetables only type healthily. I have an apple body shape, all of my weight is in my midsection and I have pretty thin arms/legs.
Also, he was married previously to a woman who was very thin.
This came up while we were watching tv, and there was a woman who wanted her husband to be manlier. My fiance asked me if I’d be more attracted to him if he were manlier. (I’m an inch taller than him, and it bothers him to no end.) I said, “No, I love you lots and I’m very attracted to you.” Then I made the mistake of asking him if he’d be more attracted to me if I were thinner. After dodging the question a couple of times I made him answer me directly, and he said, “Well yes, but I’m sure there’s things we could both do that increases our attraction to each other.” So I asked him, “So on a scale of 1-10 how attracted are you to me? a 4?” and he said, “Oh no, much more than that…like a 9.”
A NINE! And I’m marrying this person in 29 days and he’s not even 100% attracted to me. I feel all sorts of horrible emotions, especially since my weight has been the biggest source of insecurity for my entire life. Am I overreacting? Should I expect my future husband to be 100% attracted to me? We were planning on having kids right away, but now I have my doubts because I’m scared of what it would do to my body. I love him and I want to make him happy and be 100% attracted to me, so I’ve started back up smoking cigarettes and having two protein shakes and one meal daily. He says that he loves me, and since a couple days ago after he saw how what he said affected me he’s TRIED to say that he’s 10/10 attracted to me, but how am I supposed to believe that now?
What are your guys’ get skinny-quick tips? And I’d appreciate it if you’d all tell me just how much of a jerk he was by saying that. I need to hear it.