Post # 1
Every wedding I have ever been to has had an even number of bridesmaids and groomsmen, so I’ve always seen this as what is usually done. When I got engaged I had in mind 5 people for my bridesmaids, but my fiance decided he only wanted to have his brother as his best man. He isn’t really into wedding planning and doesn’t want to go through the hassle of asking guys to be in the wedding, so he is happy just having his brother stand by him. However, we have already asked my sister, best friend, and his neice to be bridesmaids. I was wanting to know your opinions on having an uneven number for the wedding party. Thanks!
Post # 3
I have an uneven party, 4 on my side and 5 on his. It’s no big deal, and I’d so much rather have people I love up there with me than fillers just to make the numbers even, you know?
It’s really no big deal. The last bridesmaid is grabbing two groomsmen as she walks back up the aisle. It’s awesome.
Post # 4
We had 6 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen. It worked out okay! I say, go for it. If you’re really concerned about the off balance, what about asking one or two of the girls to help with other tasks? (Readings, or even, functioning as a day of coordinator).
Post # 5
If you’re okay with it, then it’s no big deal. I like symmetry, so in my wedding it was important that the numbers matched.
My biggest concern would be if you were doing a bridal party dance, where now you have only one guy and a bunch of girls to figure out who they should dance with…but I’d honestly just cut that if I were in your situation.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza
No big deal! We have 6 bridesmaids and 3 groomsmen! Fiance just has a few close friends and we didn’t want to ask people just as stand ins. I think you’ll be fine with an uneven wedding party!
Post # 7
@abbie017: I like symmetry as well, so that is why I keep wondering about the odd number. I don’t want the pictures to look off, but I guess we will find a way around that. We won’t be having a bridal party dance, so that’s luckily not an issue.
I also did not want just fillers for the bridal party. I didn’t want to look at my wedding pictures a few years from now and wonder why a certain person was a part of the wedding.
Thanks for helping me out ladies, I guess uneven wedding parties are more common than I thought.
Post # 8
I also have an uneven wedding party, 5 girls and 4 guys. We could have asked one more guy, but thought that kind of defeated the purpose of why you choose who you do for your wedding party.
Post # 9
I don’t think assymmetry is a problem at all. I actually think it makes it more natural. My Fiance on the other hand does not like the assymmetry, and it’s causing a problem for him.
Neither of us has any sisters, so I’ve asked my 4 closest friends, and his cousin, who we’re both very close with to be bridesmaids. His brother will be Bridesmaid or Best Man, along with my 2 brothers, leaving him with (in his mind) only 2 spots for 3 friends.
I’ve tried telling him over and over again that it’s not a big deal (so have his parents) but he’s dead set on having an even number.
Post # 10
Dont worry bout the pictures being off~ let your photog know its inportant to you that the pix look balanced or at least artsy so if you just don’t take those photos with all the girls on the brides side and have just the one guy on the groom’s it wont look weird.
As for walking down the aisle, I think its best if the best man just stands up there with the groom already (kinda like in the royal wedding remember?!). The guys don’t care to be looked at and everyone always looks as the BMs the most anyway with the flowers and all so I would just send everyone down the aisle individually and then on the way out ladies first then the gent!
Don’t add fillers just because… I added my SIL and Future Sister-In-Law “just because” instead of the 3 BFFs and 1 sister I was originally going to go with and I wish I wouldn’t have now cuz Fiance only has 4 BUT with the 2 extra at least I’ll be semi-symetrical with the even numbers! haha
Post # 11
We have 8 bridesmaids (one is Matron of honor and one is Maid of honor) and 7 groomsmen (including a best man), plus one flower girl and one ring bearer. We are just having the Maid and Matron walk back down the aisle with the best man (or having the matron of honor be escorted by her husband (she’s my sister and her husband is doing a reading). I had hoped for two flowergirls to make the start and end with three… but the Fiance nixed that idea because he thought the bridal party was too big already.