(Closed) More bridesmaids than groomsmen?? Opinions please.

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What to do about an uneven wedding party?
    Leave it uneven - Who cares!? : (28 votes)
    88 %
    Even it out - Ask a good (not great) friend : (0 votes)
    Even it out - Ask a family member (e.g. brother in law of the bride) : (4 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I don’t think anyone will think less of him at all! It will look fine in pictures and it will save you the stress of having a fair-weather friend (with a risk of falling through) involved in your special day. 

    Post # 4
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    4 posts
    Wannabee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We are having 5 bridesmaids and 4 groomsmen. I think it will be a unique touch.

    Post # 5
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    701 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    It’s totally fine to have uneven sides.

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Personally, I don’t like uneven wedding parties. I would ask a family member, not a friend, because a family member is not likely to take the position for granted/flake out. 

    Post # 7
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    185 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think it is personal preference. We have 4 GM’s and 3 BM’s (one of my friends just recently dropped out…) We are also having a Flower Girl. I went back and forth with being okay with it and not. Finally I decided the older sister of our little Flower Girl (sister’s 12) is going to be a Jr. Bridesmaid or Best Man. (I used to nanny both of them, so I am close with both girls) It will make her day and even it out better. I think you need to try to picture what it’ll look like and then decide.

    Post # 8
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    524 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @MrsBroccoli:  I guess it depends on your family–I have family members that I trust even less than my friends and who would definitely flake out if I invited them to a destination wedding. 

    I think uneven wedding parties are perfectly fine and that no one would think any less of him! But if he’s uncomfortable with it, then he should definitely think about asking someone–because it is his decision and you don’t want him to be uncomfortable on his own wedding day!

    Post # 9
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    Leave it how it is!  I had 3 BMs and he had 2 GMs.  We only wanted our most important people up there with us and no “fillers”.

    Post # 10
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    420 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I don’t think anyone will think less of him, most of your guests probably won’t even notice.  However, if it’s making him uncomfortable, I think you should even it out.  I like the option of having someone in his family step in more than having a not so close friend step in.  Is losing one of your BM’s an option or are they all really special to you/already asked them?  Find out if it’s really bothering him or if he’s just worried about what other people would think.  I personally would feel really self concious if I had less BM’s than my Fiance had Groomsmen, but maybe he’s not as worried about it as I am.

    Post # 11
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    ours ended up uneven too and it was fine! we had 2 girls walk together with one guy in the middle (out of the church and into the reception)… looked great actually! they made good fun of it dancing into the reception 😉

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    We had uneven as well. I had 4 and he had 3 and I think it looked fine. And we’re sooooo glad we didn’t ask the person that he was going to (friend of his since preschool, but known to be a little flakey) since he didn’t even show up as a guest at the last minute. 

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