(Closed) More bridesmaids than groomsmen?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What should we do about the bridesmaids/groomsmen situation?
    Have 6 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen : (11 votes)
    100 %
    Ask a friend to step down as bridesmaid (arrrgghh), making 5 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen : (0 votes)
    Force FI to ask another friend to be groomsman, making 6 bridesmaids and 6 groomsmen : (0 votes)

    11 votes

    • Post # 1
    Member
    60 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I have 6 friends that I can’t not see as being part of my wedding.  My fiance has 4 friends that he has to have in the wedding, and we originally planned on him asking 2 more friends (one from work, one from college) that are good friends but not as close as the others.  He asked one of these friends (so he now has 5 friends as attendants) but is on the fence about asking the 6th person.  I have basically already asked my 6 friends to be bridesmaids, so it would be weird (but possible) to ask one to step down.

    My options are:  1) Keep it as it is and have 6 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen; 2) Ask one of my friends (who told me before that if we need to, she can step down, although I really don’t want to make her do this) to step down, making 5 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen; or 3) Have my fiance ask a 6th person to act as groomsmen, making 6 bridesmaids and 6 groomsmen. 

    Any suggestions/thoughts?  Has anyone had an “off” number of bridesmaids and groomsmen?

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    Post # 3
    Member
    46330 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    It is not uncommon to have differing numbers of attendants on the bride’s and groom’s side.

    You Fiance should not have to include someone he’s not real keen on having.

    Post # 4
    Member
    378 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

     My FH and I were concerned about it at first (since we thought it would be heavily imbalanced a la’ Peter Klaven in ‘I love you, man’) but when we thought it might be 1 short (3 Bridesmaid or Best Man + 1 Maid/Matron of Honor to 2 Groomsmen + 1 BM), I wasn’t too worried about it. Definitely do NOT ask a Bridesmaid or Best Man to step down, and don’t worry about having your FH ask someone that he’s not close to be a Groomsmen. I’ve been to a few weddings with an uneven number of attendants…. no biggie. I think it’s one of those things that only a bride would notice, so I think you’re OK.

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