Post # 1
I met a guy on an online dating website. I’m very new to online dating so we texted daily for about 3 weeks before we met up.
We went and had a few drinks, and had dinner. We chatted non stop, laughed heaps and overall it was probably one of the best first dates I have had.
He texted me as soon as he got home, and has continued to text me daily. We met a little over a week ago, and yesterday he left for an overseas trip for 10 days.
I thought it was weird he didnt try and line up another date before he left.. as if he really did like me wouldnt he of wanted to of seen me again?
He has said a few things though that make me believe he likes me:
– He suggested when he gets back from overseas he will cook dinner, and I can make a cheesecake (long story about the cheesecake thing)
– He said he will buy some flavoured vodka and make me cocktails
– Said he would email me pictures while he is overseas
– I was feeling sick one day and he said f he wasnt at work he would of come a brought me sushi
– Sent me a text from the plane with his email address and told me he checks it daily
He also said that ‘for the record, he would of loved to of seen me before he went away but was busy planning/packing’ He has also said a few things like he loves how I have a sense of humour and don’t take him too seriously. I also don’t initiate contact, I wait for him to text me first.
So my thing is that now he is away, i’m not sure what to do! My instinct are telling me NOT to email him, because he said he wanted to send me pictures but didnt ask for my email and it wasnt until I said that if he wanted to email me that would be nice that he gave me his.
What do the bees think? To email or not to email? He left Sunday and returns the following Wednesday, if I was to email when should I do it?
Post # 3
Well, technically him offering to cook you dinner when he gets back is lining up a next date. So I wouldn’t worry about the fact that he “didn’t line up a date.” A date is picked for it to happen, but he made plans to do something. And I would absolutely email. He said he wanted to send you pics then gave you his address. He can’t exactly email you without your address. 🙂 Wait a couple days then shoot him your email address. And a short note. Leave it at that.
let us know how it goes 🙂
Post # 4
Didn’t I give you some dating advice a few weeks ago? lol I’m so proud of you for not initiating any contact, so don’t blow it now by emailing him while he’s gone. I forbid it. Delete his email address so you aren’t even tempted. Let him miss you and think about all the things he promised you before he left (cocktails, pictures, dinner, etc.)
And yes, it’s a little strange that he only texted and didn’t set up another date. And he didn’t ask for your email address either. All the more reason not to contact him while he’s gone. Let him come to you. That is all:)
Post # 5
But how is he supposed to email her first without her email address?
Post # 6
@Elvis: If he wanted her email address before he left, then he would have asked for it. Or he would have said very specifically, “email me so I can have your address”. Which, unless I read the post wrong, he didn’t do. He sounds full of a lot of promises, so I say wait to see what he delivers.
And no, saying “let’s have dinner sometime-I’ll cook” is not a date.
Post # 7
I am not an expert or anything, but if he has always the one initating contact, maybe he wants you to be the first one to contact him. Maybe he needs some reassurance too. I would wait a couple days, send a quick short email saying hi, and if he doesn’t email back, that is that. I don’t think always waiting for the guy to contact you is the best solution.
Post # 8
Since he is always initiating contact, I would wait a few days into his trip and send him a short email. A joke, an article about something youve discussed, a funny picture. Anything that says you are thinking about him while he is gone.
At this point he probably wants to make sure that you are as interested in him as he is in you. Just don’t go crazy and email him daily/multiple times a day.
Post # 9
I don’t believe in playing hard to get. I say, go ahead and send him an email–ONE email–so he has your contact info. Then, let him take it from there. There’s no use in waiting and waiting if he can’t even get in touch with you to send pics, etc.
Post # 10
If feel like the e-mail thing is an innocent oversight on his part.
I still think you can shoot him a brief e-mail, and still be letting him make most the moves. Also that leaves the ball in his court again.
Post # 11
@PutABirdOnIt: I’m not the type of girl to play “hard to get” or anything, and I know a lot of guys that at some point, they feel like they’re the only one chasing and the girl isn’t interested, and they give up.
As other posters said, I think you should wait a day or two, then send him a short email about something random, then wait. He needs your email to send you anything, and when you told him he can’t email you without your address, he gave you his so that you can email him and he can get yours. Maybe he wants you to initiate contact once so he knows if you’re actually interested.
Post # 12
I think it’s reaaaaaaally dumb when girls play games with guys. They are not mind readers – neither are we. I think people should just tell each other what they want!
He’s been the one initiating contact, and maybe he wants to feel like you’re invested, too. He’s given you his email, told you he checks his daily, and said he wanted to send you pictures throughout his trip. It’s borderline to the whole playing a game thing, in my honest opinion, but I wholehearted think you should shoot him a quick email like “Hope your flight was going great. I’ve been looking at different cheesecake recipes. Hope you’re enjoying your trip.”
This touches on the fact that you’ve sort-of set up a date, and lets him know you’re interested in him, a next date, and in seeing pictures of his trip while he’s away.
Just my two cents!
Post # 13
I agree with @WineAndCupcakes: and some of the other posters. Since he has been in contact with you so many times it would be ok to email him first a few days into the trip just as Godiva suggested. And then no emailing again until he responds. This sounds like it’s going really well!!!!
Post # 14
If you play too hard to get, he is going to think that you are too hard to get. I’d send him a little email a couple of days into his trip saying “Hope your trip is going well, and I’m still looking forward to that dinner” to let him know you are interested.
Post # 15
You can email if you want, but if I were you I wouldn’t.
It’s a known fact man like women who are more difficult to get; I know people say “don’t play games” but it’s not games, it’s just knowing human nature and using it in your favour!
This guy has your number and phones work overseas too!! So if he wants contact he will contact you…
Post # 16
i would shoot him a quick email in a day or two. i think him not asking for your email directly isnt a big deal as he had asked you to email him. guys get nervous too… maybe he meant to ask for yours, fumbled, and just gave you his instead. i think super analyzing situations is not always a good thing 😉 he does seem interested, and he might be looking for some reassurance you are too!