(Closed) More dating advice needed from the bees!

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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2893 posts
Sugar bee

Well, technically him offering to cook you dinner when he gets back is lining up a next date. So I wouldn’t worry about the fact that he “didn’t line up a date.” A date is picked for it to happen, but he made plans to do something. And I would absolutely email. He said he wanted to send you pics then gave you his address. He can’t exactly email you without your address. 🙂 Wait a couple days then shoot him your email address. And a short note. Leave it at that.

let us know how it goes 🙂

Post # 4
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2018 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Didn’t I give you some dating advice a few weeks ago? lol  I’m so proud of you for not initiating any contact, so don’t blow it now by emailing him while he’s gone.  I forbid it. Delete his email address so you aren’t even tempted.  Let him miss you and think about all the things he promised you before he left (cocktails, pictures, dinner, etc.)

And yes, it’s a little strange that he only texted and didn’t set up another date.  And he didn’t ask for your email address either. All the more reason not to contact him while he’s gone.  Let him come to you. That is all:)

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@PutABirdOnIt:

But how is he supposed to email her first without her email address?

Post # 6
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2018 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Elvis:  If he wanted her email address before he left, then he would have asked for it.  Or he would have said very specifically, “email me so I can have your address”.  Which, unless I read the post wrong, he didn’t do.  He sounds full of a lot of promises, so I say wait to see what he delivers.

And no, saying “let’s have dinner sometime-I’ll cook” is not a date.

 

Post # 7
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1611 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am not an expert or anything, but if he has always the one initating contact, maybe he wants you to be the first one to contact him.  Maybe he needs some reassurance too.  I would wait a couple days, send a quick short email saying hi, and if he doesn’t email back, that is that.  I don’t think always waiting for the guy to contact you is the best solution.

Post # 8
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3126 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Since he is always initiating contact, I would wait a few days into his trip and send him a short email. A joke, an article about something youve discussed, a funny picture. Anything that says you are thinking about him while he is gone.

At this point he probably wants to make sure that you are as interested in him as he is in you. Just don’t go crazy and email him daily/multiple times a day.

Post # 9
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3525 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I don’t believe in playing hard to get. I say, go ahead and send him an email–ONE email–so he has your contact info. Then, let him take it from there. There’s no use in waiting and waiting if he can’t even get in touch with you to send pics, etc.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

If feel like the e-mail thing is an innocent oversight on his part. 

I still think you can shoot him a brief e-mail, and still be letting him make most the moves. Also that leaves the ball in his court again.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@PutABirdOnIt: I’m not the type of girl to play “hard to get” or anything, and I know a lot of guys that at some point, they feel like they’re the only one chasing and the girl isn’t interested, and they give up.

As other posters said, I think you should wait a day or two, then send him a short email about something random, then wait. He needs your email to send you anything, and when you told him he can’t email you without your address, he gave you his so that you can email him and he can get yours. Maybe he wants you to initiate contact once so he knows if you’re actually interested.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think it’s reaaaaaaally dumb when girls play games with guys. They are not mind readers – neither are we. I think people should just tell each other what they want!

He’s been the one initiating contact, and maybe he wants to feel like you’re invested, too. He’s given you his email, told you he checks his daily, and said he wanted to send you pictures throughout his trip. It’s borderline to the whole playing a game thing, in my honest opinion, but I wholehearted think you should shoot him a quick email like “Hope your flight was going great. I’ve been looking at different cheesecake recipes. Hope you’re enjoying your trip.”

This touches on the fact that you’ve sort-of set up a date, and lets him know you’re interested in him, a next date, and in seeing pictures of his trip while he’s away.

Just my two cents!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I agree with @WineAndCupcakes: and some of the other posters.  Since he has been in contact with you so many times it would be ok to email him first a few days into the trip just as Godiva suggested.  And then no emailing again until he responds.  This sounds like it’s going really well!!!!

Post # 14
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1571 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If you play too hard to get, he is going to think that you are too hard to get. I’d send him a little email a couple of days into his trip saying “Hope your trip is going well, and I’m still looking forward to that dinner” to let him know you are interested.

Post # 15
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277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

You can email if you want, but if I were you I wouldn’t.

It’s a known fact man like women who are more difficult to get; I know people say “don’t play games” but it’s not games, it’s just knowing human nature and using it in your favour!

 

This guy has your number and phones work overseas too!! So if he wants contact he will contact you…

Post # 16
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Busy bee

i would shoot him a quick email in a day or two. i think him not asking for your email directly isnt a big deal as he had asked you to email him. guys get nervous too… maybe he meant to ask for yours, fumbled, and just gave you his instead. i think super analyzing situations is not always a good thing 😉 he does seem interested, and he might be looking for some reassurance you are too! 

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