Post # 1
I guess it’s no surprise that the economy has affected everyone’s wallets, but I never would have anticipated it was this bad…
Of our 150 guests invited, we’re really looking at 60-75 at best. The venue has a minimum of 115 already, so we’re forced to pay for all those guests regardless if they’re there or not… While I know we shouldn’t let it bother us, we can’t help it; will the large ballroom look empty? We’re going to pay for an extra $4K for people who aren’t there?
Our wedding is October 16th–and we’ve seriously considered moving the venue. We’re having such a hard time dealing with all the wedding hoopla and conformity, we’d be happier with our guests at a nice restaurant with food/wine/background music piped in. But is that CRAZY? I know we could pull it off… am I the only one experiencing this?
Post # 3
Are there any more people on your “b-list” friends, co-workers, family friends etc that you could invite, Oct 16 is still a long way away so if you sent them invites now I doubt they would be offended?
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club
Maybe you could upgrade the menu or something so that you feel you’re getting something for the extra $4k you’re paying…?
We’re inviting 100, which happens to add up to the minimum, so if we end up expecting a low turnout I plan to do a little upgrade or something to fill in the extra cost.
Post # 5
We had the same issue…out of about 185 invited we had just over 100 come. We were lucky in that we didn’t have any minimums to meet, but I think you should try to turn this negative into a positive. Maybe you should consider changing to a smaller venue…think of the possibilities this could open up in your budget! Also, going for upgrades as some others have suggested would be a fun way to turn this into a good situation. Not to mention the extra time you’ll have to spend with your guests on the day of!
I don’t mean to make light of what you’re feeling about all the no responses, but try to make the best of it!
Post # 6
I would definitely create a “B List.” Are there any co-workers or neighbors you could invite? Maybe a teacher even that you had a close relationship with growing up?
In our situation, we took the number of people that didn’t show up as an advantage. Since we had to meet a minimum, we upgraded our appetizers to scallops, large jumbo shrimp, and oysters whichmade everything all the more great and really benefited those who were there.
Post # 7
We’re date twins!
I like the suggestion of creating a b list and inviting people you normally would have excluded, that way you meet your minimum. If you’re worried about the room looking small….I wouldn’t worry about it. I’m sure it will be lovely and I think there is something very elegant and old world about having a HUGE open room for a small number of people…..very romantic.
We’re having the expectd # of people turn down our invitations due to their being out of state, but I’m sort of glad because now we can invite more of our b list, those being college friends and co-workers.
Post # 8
if you have a b list, there’s still time to invite them. if you’re worried about the hall being too big, is there a way to put a divider up for part of it?
Post # 9
Unfortunately, we’ve exhausted our “B” list quite a bit already and I’m not really thrilled about inviting folks just for the sake of… where we’re at is just what it is.
My fiance and I are going to talk more about on Tuesday. The more and more I think about it, I actually would have preferred a smaller gathering from the get-go; it’s more our style anyways but I guess we figured we HAD to do the whole elaboarte ballroom, dancing, traditional expereince. We’re honestly trying to think of ways to make this totally non-traditional just to make it ours…
If we find a smaller venue, we may nix the DJ, which is fine. We would save a ton in the long run–although, we’d lose our deposits already made.