More dress stress

posted 8 months ago in Dress
Post # 2
742 posts
Busy bee

Just my personal opinion- I prefer your dress without the removable straps. I don’t think the organza is necessary either. But the most important thing is how *you* feel in the dress. It is gorgeous and you should feel gorgeous in it. If that means a bit of extra alterations (taking it back to its original state sans straps and organza- if that’s what you want) before the wedding, I think it would be worth it if you’ll feel like you’re wearing the dress you originally fell in love with. I think it looks loveliest in the first and last pictures you posted. You can’t really go wrong though – it’s a beautiful gown and is very flattering on your figure!

Post # 3
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - City, State

You’re not imagining it.  Your seamstress is right.  It looks different because it was taken in so much.  The straps and organza are not making things any better, in my opinion.  In fact, it’s the opposite.  I say ditch the straps and organza and let out the dress a bit at the waist and hips so that it doesn’t bunch up like that.  Your chest area looks fine without the straps and organza.  I think you can get your dress back. tduck1 :  

Post # 4
436 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2020

I would remove the organza, all it’s doing is drawing more attention to your chest. The top off your dress really isn’t very revealing anyway.

Like PP I prefer the dress without the straps. But I also think the straps would look way better without the organza.

The dress looks amazing on you by the way x

Post # 5
3876 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

It looks great, maybe a bit tight around the ribs? 

I say forget the straps and organza, they mess with the design of the dress. 

Post # 6
1260 posts
Bumble bee

Ditch the straps and the organza! I bet you will be much happier. It is a bit too snug looking in the waist area-make sure you can breathe in it!

Post # 7
8556 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Yes I have to agree, no straps and only a tad of organza,  if any . Is it a bit tight at the waist maybe?

Regardless,  you look great in it. Breathe, breathe,  all will be well dear OP .

Post # 8
3968 posts
Honey bee

I actually think you look terrific in your dress but I can see you feel dissatisfied about your dress. I really think the add ons don’t enhance your dress at all. Three weeks might be a tight time frame but I think if you have some money in the budget you should try and find an alternative. The beautiful dress you already have is an excellent plan B

Post # 9
405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

tduck1 :  oh I’m sorry bee, it’s a pretty dress and as long as you like it that’s all that matters…..however I do agree that the before picture was better as I don’t think it was too much cleavage at all and the straps seem very unnecessary.

Post # 10
5758 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

There really isn’t a huge amount of cleavage on show so I would remove that weird organza patch and the straps.  That stuff doesn’t add anything to the dress, it looked much better before.  It definitely looks a bit tight around your waist and upper hips, is it possible to have it let out slightly in your timeframe? Otherwise invest in some good spanx. 

Post # 11
1524 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

It’s a belt – you need to try a belt.  Your waist is more defined in the first picture probably because it was a larger size and the decorative seaming was able to sort of pinch in your waist in a particular way and define it.  You just need that definition back and I think that will help.  I agree with PP – the sleeves and the organza are not the way to go.  If you feel uncomfortable without the organza then just make it a teeny bit, but I don’t think you look overly chesty or indecent at all.

Post # 12
9555 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I agree with pp. Ditch the organza and the straps. It’s really not revealing…

I do think a belt might look lovely too.

Post # 13
907 posts
Busy bee

Get rid of the straps and organza and try a belt. When I got my dress I was super frustrated because it was HUGE, prob two sizes too big, and everything the seamstress did just made it worse. We finally got it right the week before the wedding. I don’t understand why dress shops make you order a dress that’s way too big. 

It looks great on you in the first picture and I think the fourth picture is getting really close as far as the fit goes so I’m sure they will be able to get it right. Good luck.

Post # 14
830 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

I agree with PP that the straps and organza are not necessary; the top doesn’t look revealing to me.

I’ll also agree with zzar45 that it looks a bit tight between the waist and high hip, so if it could be let out a bit, you could enhance your shape with some shapewear under that without having to have the dress itself be so restrictive. Your shape already looks well-proportioned in the first photo, which is what makes me think it’s too tight now.

If there’s no time for more alterations, I’d bet some shapewear would still help. I’ve worn fitted dresses that looked a bit too tight in the hips until I put them on with shapewear.

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