Post # 1
My baby is only 4 months but I’m already thinking about baby #2. It took us 3 years to conceive him, I’m worried we will have the same problem with the second.
I read that you are more fertile after having a baby… how long does this period last? Is it as long as I’m breastfeeding? Ideally I would get pregnant with #2 after he is a year old, but not much after. We would like around 2 years between them.
We were diagnosed with unexplained fertility – all tests came back normal. We conceived him after an IUI.
Should we try without intervention for a few months or go to a clinic right away when we are ready?
Post # 2
I have heard that pregnancy can act as a “reset” button for the body and hormones and it’s definitely not unheard of for people to have a much easier time conceiving subsequent babies.
For me personally it took twelve months to conceive our first baby but only 2-3 months each to conceive the next two (three pregnancies, one miscarriage at nine weeks, all while breastfeeding).
Post # 3
I don’t know if women are really more fertile after baby, or just more likely to get pregnant by accident because of the unpredictable cycles post partum. I would say try for a couple cycles but I would definitely be headed to a clinic pretty quickly if you have trouble again.
Post # 4
It took me 2.5 years to get pregnant with my son and we had unexplained infertility. He was a natural conception just before trying IVF.
like you we thought we should start trying for a second when he was a year old. I was still breastfeeding at the time. I stopped at 13 months and I fell pregnant when he was 16 months old which was really perfect timing. I had the same due date for both (though their birthdays are 11 days apart – phew)
it was much quicker and easier second time round. I’d say to try naturally for at least 6 months / year before going for treatment
Post # 5
It took me 2-3 months to conceive the first time.
the second time (around 22 months after my daughter was born) it took me 3 weeks. I breastfed her until she was 12 months and I was on the mini pill from 6 weeks pp to 12 months pp… immediately went on the combination pill and when I went off I got pregnant without a menstrual cycle. We were surprised!!
Post # 6
I know people who had a much easier time TTC with #2 than #1, plenty that had trouble with both, and a fair number who had a harder time with #2. You really can’t predict what will happen.
We used IVF for this current pregnancy and our plan when we’re ready for #2 is to TTC without intervention for about 6 months before we go back and transfer one of our frozen embryos. If we didn’t have some frozen though, I’d probably head in for intervention a bit sooner since age isn’t always kind to fertility.
Post # 7
One of my coworkers spent 7 years trying to get pregnant with her first and underwent multiple rounds of IVF but ended up getting pregant spontaneously. She has PCOS and she believes she also had undiagnosed endometriosis. Her OB (that she switched to after being unhappy with her previous dr) told her that it would be much easier for her to get pregnant after she delivered her son because she had a tilted cervix which, after labor, was no longer tilted (her last dr or infertility specialists never mentioned her cervix being tilted). She is now 26 weeks pregnant and her son is 1.5 years old. So you never know!
Post # 8
mrspuppylove : we needed IVF and then had an “oops” pregnancy when she was 9 months old (I say oops in quotes because we weren’t actively preventing). It ended in miscarriage but fertility is a weird thing to predict. We aren’t bothering to “try” again before using our frozen embryos because (a) we have frozen embryos and (b) trying to get pregnant sucks. We’ve been having carefree sex for 2 years and so now that we’re ready for another it makes zero sense to us to try temping/charting/etc when we can just thaw one out and pop it in.
Post # 9
My friend had IVF with her first and then conceived naturally without trying twice. The first of these sadly resulted in a miscarriage and the second time is now 12 weeks old.
Post # 10
I had no idea this was a thing, but it was true for me! 12 cycles for baby 1, 2 cycles for baby 2, 1 cycle for baby 3!
Post # 11
We had luck conceiving the first time on cycle #3 but now we’ve been trying for our second for 6 months… my cycle is way longer now so kinda seems like the opposite happened for me 🙁
Post # 12
I have seen it go both ways. People who conceive very quickly with #1 and need assistance with #2 (secondary infertility) and people who need assistance wtih #1 and then get a surprise when they get pregnant with #2 super quick.
Are you exclusively breastfeeding or pumping or supplementing? You are not more fertile if you are exclusively breastfeeding. Generally if you exclusively breastfeed you are unlikely to ovulate until your baby is 6mo+ old.
Have you had a period yet?
I got pregnant with both of my kids very easily but I did not get my period back (so was not fertile at all) until 7.5mo pp with #1 and 1 year pp with #2 due to breastfeeding.
Post # 13
My friend concieved while she was still breastfeeding. it’s different for everyone
Post # 14
kes18 : I am exclusively breastfeeding and have not gotten my period back yet. We will use protection until he is a year because I would need to work at least 6 months before I can take mat leave again and get paid.
I am just hoping that after a year I may still benefit from being more fertile. The clinic has a waiting list (not sure if I can skip the list as I’m already a patient or not) but fertility treatments are expensive. It would be great if we dont need to go back.