(Closed) More fights centered around FMIL and FI's attitude about it… VENT!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 33
7367 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Block her and be done with it. And tell you FH any FB comments critiques you will not hear moving forward. 

Post # 34
82 posts
Worker bee

My initial thought was that maybe it’s genuinely upsetting your Fiance and he’s passing it off as upsetting his parents. Even if your intention wasn’t to be hurtful, it is a little mean to publically point out that he went to douchey colleges or poking fun at yourself by essentially calling him selfish. “Relax, can’t you take a joke?” type humor can be grating if it happens all the time, whether it’s his or his parents’ perspective.  Maybe ask him point blank if he’s hurt by it, apologize if he is, and then reel it in; or, if he genuinely thinks it’s funny, take it to PMs where it won’t get misunderstood. Facebook really isn’t worth driving a wedge between you and him/you and his parents/him and his parents.

Post # 35
280 posts
Helper bee

You can block her on Facebook, or change your settings so that she can’t see anything you post without having to block her. Then even if you tag him in something or write it directly on his wall, she won’t be able to see it.

Post # 36
3637 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

You can make it so that when you post things like that ONLY he (plus a couple of friends if you want) can see it. To be honest if I was from the outside looking in and read those posts I might thonk that there was trouble in paradise. 

I kind of agree with your Fiance that you need to pick your battles and if a slight change in behaviour (like limiting how viable your posts are) can curry better favour with her for the next big, important fight, then I would do it.

I can also see how others feel that “if you give an inch they take a mile”, I guess it really depends on which strategy you think will work best. 

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