(Closed) More in-law drama and this time it’s not her causing it…

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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2247 posts
Buzzing bee

I don’t know why your Future Sister-In-Law is calling you ridiculous.  I guess she’ll learn soon enough, right?  It is kind of weird to me, given the circumstances of your Mother-In-Law being disfellowshiped, that your Future Sister-In-Law is including her in anything, at all.  I’m totally unaware of her familial relationships, but it seems like she’s disrespecting her own mother by including your Mother-In-Law in everything.

I’d be pretty upset if someone called me ridiculous too.  I am not sure why you and your Darling Husband cut your MIL off, but I’m sure it was for good reason.  Your BIL and Future Sister-In-Law need to respect your decision on that.  It is never a wedding planner’s responsiblity to transport the bride and groom anywhere.  I definitely wouldn’t want to be trapped in a car for an hour with someone I dislike. 

Post # 4
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2263 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I agree with @Pinksapphire: I don’t think your Future Sister-In-Law has any grounds to say what she did. I’m sorry she said that, I’d be pretty upset too. I hope she sees her words hurt you, especially when you were trying to help her. Sometimes I just don’t understand what it is about weddings that make people so crazy! 

Post # 5
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767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Maybe blending family and professional roles is becoming the problem?  Maybe if you sit future SIL down and explain that you are the wedding planner and that you just don’t drive clients to meetings (my wedding planner has met me at every venue). 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Did BIL and Future Sister-In-Law know that you had cut Mother-In-Law out of your lives?  Did they already know your and DH’s position regarding MIL?  

I’m not taking FSIL’s side.  It was wrong for her to tell you that you were being ridiculous.  She should have said, “Oh.  Okay.  I’ll find other arrangements for her.” or something like that.  But, I have to say, when I read that you said “I don’t want her in my car.” that seemed kind of harsh.  I understand where you are coming from but I was expecting to read, “No.  I’m not picking her up.  I’ll just be meeting you guys there.”  It’s not what you said, it’s how you said it.  Maybe your snappy comment got her started.  

Have they hired you to be their planner or are you giving them your services?  Because of the situation, it might be best if you let someone else do the job.  Maybe just give advice here and there, but no official work as a planner.

Post # 8
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1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@mwitter80: Your Future Sister-In-Law has no idea what she is getting herself into and right now she wants to look like the good DIL

Post # 9
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329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Well as a planner myself, I completely understand the “I don’t pick brides and grooms up” comment because I don’t either but how you and Darling Husband feel about your Mother-In-Law is your business not any of hers.  It’s your car and therefore your decision who you want in there.  I say good for you for standing up for yourself.  Hopefully, things will get better and their apology was heartfelt.

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