- 8 years ago
- Wedding: December 2009
So my SIL has been living at my Mother-In-Law and FIL’s second home. They live in another state and all of DH siblings live in the same City (where the second home is). Whenever Mother-In-Law and Father-In-Law visit they stay at their OWN house right? and we all gather there to see them and spend some family time together. What it always ends up happening is that SIL who lives at her parernts house is always fed up with all the people visiting and throws fits and gets into fights with everyone. This has been going on for years and my Father-In-Law was fed up and basically kicked her out of the house (she owns her own house but she rents it).
SIL wants to move out but she doesn’t have the money to furnish her place. (SIL has a nice job but she is in debt and hardly has any money ever! She spends all her money eating out, and paying her multiple debets). DH and his siblings all wanted to help her. DH’s other sister offered her old sofa and love seat (she upgraded a few months ago and the furniture is in good condition). DH’s brother offered to get her some simple cabinetry for her kitchen, Father-In-Law said he’d buy the stove and DH will buy her a fridge. SIL is not happy with hand-me-downs from her sister and called DH to rant about it. She said that her house is not a dumpster and that she could easily afford a cheap living room set (everyone else is buying her new stuff). DH was so mad and he told her she should be greatful that they are helping her. SIL continued…. She said that when we visit her, we don’t even give her a cent to pay for the electricity we use up!! I Cannot believe this! She always borrows money from DH, small amounts like 20 dollars etc, but she never pays back and DH never expects her to. I’m so mad at her right now and I don’t even want DH to help her. She should struggle a little so she knows what real life is all about and she can stop being so selfish for once. I love my SIL but she has got to learn one way or the other.
I talked to DH and he said he still wants to help her. It is his money but I just don’t feel like she deserves it. What do you guys think?