- 9 years ago
- Wedding: December 2008
So hive, I have tried not to turn this into a major saga or anything, but I’ve posted before about my MIL’s illness and our plans to move back in with my husband’s parents for an undetermined amount of time.
Well, it seems that all his other siblings who are out of the house have had the same idea. Both his brother and sister (20 and 24) are in the Air Force, and they are both trying to get hardship transfers to a base about an hour away, and not just getting an apartment down there or even one near by, but actually moving into the parents’ house as well! We’re talking 6 independent adults, 1 high school senior (my other SIL, 17), and a newborn in one four bedroom house.
They’re talking about remodeling, putting an addition on the house, etc, and all of them being there for the duration of their enlistments and likely college and/or graduate school as well — we’re talking at least 5 years for all of us.
So it looks like I am moving into a commune. Not only that, a commune made up of all of my in-laws, who all have years and years more experience living together than I do with them. Except for the baby, I’ll be the outsider. I’ll also most likely be the main housekeeper of this little social experiment, seeing as everyone already has or will have an hour long commute… it’s just not worth it for me to get a job too, with a newborn and that much cooking and laundry to try to keep up with.
I’m excited about the remodeling aspect (I’ve been drawing house plans since I was 13, I love this), but I have to admit that I am kind of freaked out by the rest of it. Sure, I love them all, but to live with ALL of them? ALL the time? And be the only non-family member (yes I’m technically family but there has always been a funny “Oh you don’t understand him [my husband] like *I* do” vibe from one SIL in particular, and occasionally from the rest of them in general.).
Anybody else lived with in-laws? Or dealt with trying to work your way into your SO’s tight-knit family? My husband and I are meeting with our pre-marital counselor tomorrow to discuss setting new rules for the new housing dynamic, but I’d love to hear ya’lls input as well.