- 12 years ago
- Wedding: January 2010
Dear Bees, please don’t feel sorry for me. I’m only posting about my relationship with my mom to help those other bees who feel like their moms have gone from normal to CRAZY in mere months. Fiance and I just laugh about it now. What else can you do?
The latest is my cousins (30-ish) RSVPed with their three kids (6, 3, 1 month) and the kids were not invited. The no-kids thing was my mothers invention, although we didn’t protest too much. Anyways, Mom TEXTS me during class to tell me that I need to call my cousins and tell them they can’t bring their kids.
1) I didn’t get the RSVP cards, she did, and they know she did so that’s weird by itself (how do I know who they RSVPed with??)
2) This is her policy that apparently she’s unwilling to fight for
3) In all etiquette books and every other wedding I’ve heard of, the person who gets the RSVP cards deals with this.
So I call my mom and tell her that she should call them because they were coming over to our house that night and I didn’t want a confrontation. She absolutely refused. She said “when they get there, just tell them that they misunderstood and that I’ll call them on Monday.” On what planet is that helpful, Mom? Like I’m going to just brush them off and not dignify it with an explanation? By the way, the phonecall you offered was a complete joke because you knew there would be no need to call them once I talked to them. Her reasoning? She’s “too stressed” to call them.
Thanks for being so concerned with my stress level (because btw I’m working full time, in law school part time, planning a wedding and sick), and forcing me into a confrontation rather then just doing what you’re supposed to do and addressing the issue, which was only an issue because you instituted a no kids policy.
URRGGHHH. Anyone want to swap crazy mom stories?