(Closed) More mothers getting abortions. Thoughts on how media portrays ladies who abort?

posted 9 years ago in Babies
Post # 32
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Sugar bee
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@CorgiTales: Thank you. 

Post # 33
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think there are a lot of misconceptions out there about who gets abortions.  It is very frustrating when large media sources fall right into those assumptions and stereotypes.  This makes it really difficult for many women who have had abortions that don’t fit the stereotype to come out with their stories.  Having had a second trimester abortion in my mid twenties when I was happily partnered, I found that I was sometimes treated as the exception, when really I am not.  Women of all ages and situations get abortions, and I wish that this was more widely understood.

As for why the media continues to portray these stereotypes, I think it is because stereotypes are easier to understand than the complicated truth that people are all different, and we all have different morals/values/situations etc.  That is why I am happy that in Canada, there are no legal restrictions on abortions.  There are medical and situational barriers, but at least there is (for what it is worth) a recognition that abortion is a deeply personal decision best left to a woman and her doctor.

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Busy Beekeeper
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So the answer to children having children in Mexico is to make abortion available?

That is just like putting a bandaid on the problem. Money & time should be spent on getting to the root of the cause, and then investing in children and the communities.

Why are children having sex? 

Children are not emotionally or physically prepared for sex, judging by how they deal with the consequences.

When did sex become a commodity or recreational sport? I’m not saying its wrong or purely biological in its purpose, pleasure is definitely an aspect , but when 10 year olds are doing it I think there is a problem.

My concern is not to debate abortion -its too situational and a personal choice, but rather discuss why we are only treating symptoms and not causes.

Post # 35
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Sugar bee

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@mhackney21: Thanks for sharing your story. I’m usually anti-abortion, but your first hand account changed my perspective on things. Although I still don’t support abortion and would never do it myself, I commend you for being brave enough to choose that path.

Post # 36
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Busy bee
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I don’t agree with abortion. My mother considered it once and had a dream I’d be a beautiful girl. I’m very happy to be here today and I respect her honesty.

Post # 37
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Busy bee
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Fyi I just wanted to add to each her own. We all have a right to our own choices and to be respected. I don’t want to sound like a pro life/pro choice ad.

Post # 38
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

After a few flags, I’d just like to pop in and remind everyone that this isn’t an abortion debate thread, this is about the media and its portrayal of women who choose to do so. Let’s get back to the OP’s question please!

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

To answer your question, OP, I think women who choose to abort are viewed one of two ways: they are either pitied and patronized (“Poor girl, she didn’t really know what she was doing,” etc.) or vilified and stripped of their humanity (“BABY KILLER!!!!111one”). It’s rare that women who choose to abort are portrayed for what they are: grown women rationally making a difficult, but necessary (for whatever reason), decision.

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

There is a popular blogger (Penolope Trunk of Brazen Careerist) who talks openly about the abortions she’s had over the years. Yes, multiple. I find that a bit much but those were her decisions and her life. She knows that she could never have brought those children into her world. 

We all have different limits and we cannot judge people on what they choose to do. I know someone who got pregnant twice after her husband had a vasectomy. She had both babies and they are now grown men. However, their whole family has struggled financially and emotionally all of this time. They were not ready for that many children (5 altogether) in any way and all of the kids have a very strained relationship with the parents.

I would much rather someone make an informed decision than blindly choose to do something just because that’s expected.

Post # 41
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I think the media is silly. The other day “Kate Middleton’s Scar Exposed..” popped up on my NEWS feed. Oy..

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

It is definately becoming more acceptable whether the media portrays it positively or not. Its covered by government health insurance in NY.

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I have a story. 

My cousin and his wife tried to have a baby for YEAAAARSS. She was in her 30’s when they finally got pregnant and everyone was so happy for them. 

Somewhere along the pregnancy, the doctor noticed abnormalties and highly recommended her to abort. She said “No, I am pro-life, Christian and don’t want to do that.”  She decided that the pregnancy was still early enough that things could change. 

They continued to monitor it very closely and frequently over the rest of her pregnancy. The doctor said that the baby had a multitude of problems, one of which was spinal bifida, and was a huge risk to herself as well as the baby. He said that IF the baby and her actaully made it out alive, (which would be extremely rare) he would have severe brain damage problems, not be able to walk, etc. (for lack of better words vegetable)

He said to abort it. Some people looked at this as irresponsbile and dangerous and what not, but many people, (her church and family supported her and prayed for their family and their baby boy). 

Anyways, pregenancy continued, people are praying, she gives birth. 

And the baby boy is COMPLETELY HEALTHY. So is she. He is gorgeous, and so smart!!! 

They named his Samuel, which means “God has heard” 

 

 

 

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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

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@MissHighHeel: wow that is a powerfull story!

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Bee Keeper
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@MissHighHeel: That sounds like an incredibly incompetent doctor to me.  Very glad she did what she believed was right and kept the child.

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@MissHighHeel: I’m glad your cousin has a healthy baby. She was lucky to have the choice to choose what was best in her situation. The doctor, on the other hand, has something to answer for, or maybe the baby just beat the odds. 

As for more mothers choosing to abort, that is, as always, between them and their doctors. I do wish it was better made known publicly so people would not always associate it with the brash, desparate decision of young, single women. 

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