- 7 years ago
So I have posted a few threads about my online dating experiences (only 3 as its still all very new to me!) and have gotten some wonderful advice off the bees.
Well.. I’m back. I had a second date with J on Friday night, 3 weeks after our first amazing date. I was beyond excited, all dolled up, hoping this was going to go somewhere.. and it didn’t. All chemistry was gone.. I actually found him to be rather obnoxious and annoying. He obviously felt the same as I haven’t heard from him and he used to text me daily.. No loss really, saves for that awkward “I’m not feeling it” conversation.
Thankfully, after being burned before, I wasn’t fully invested in this ‘relationship’. I had been talking to other men and had a few tentative dates which I will now follow through with as things with J didn’t work out.
So on Sunday I went out to meet C for coffee. We had been talking for about 3 weeks and I finally agreed to meet him. We had a really good time, had lots in common and was one of those dates where the time flies. We had coffee, went and got some lunch and then he wanted to keep the date going but couldn’t think of what to do so he asked if we should just get together again this week before I go away. I agreed, he kissed me and that was that.
… This all sounds well and good but after our date he seems different? He texted me apologising for not being very decisive and I replied saying it was ok, and that I had fun. He said he did too and when was I free again? I said Thursday.. No reply. The next day I get a message apologising for such a late reply as he had just checked his phone, he is busy Thursday but when else am I free. I replied that I could do Friday. That was yesterday morning and by last night I still hadn’t gotten a reply so I sent him a text asking if he got my message. He replied a little later saying he was in his workshop all afternoon and he didn’t think he could do Friday either. I asked when he was free, or if he didn’t want to worry about catching up again that was fine too? He said no, that he really wants to see me again so I said I could do Saturday or Monday and he said Monday worked.
.. What annoys me to no end is why the change? All of a sudden he is so busy, yet before he would reply promptly (within an hour). The other thing is I saw he had updated his facebook from his phone, so I know he got my message and just didn’t respond.
Why do men do this? I really did get the impression he had a good time- why now play games?
Again though, I have my options lined up and have a date tonight, tomorrow and Friday.
Any advice/opinions would be greatly appreciated?