- 9 years ago
last night I went out for some girl time with a girlfriend who recently broke up with her bf. Her now ex bf is really close to my SO’s ex-w.
This ‘Lovely” ex-w of my SO’s makes me uncomfortable. I am older and haven’t normally experince this kind of uncomfortableness with ex’s from past relationships. she is super friendly with him which makes him think she is just great and in the beginning of our relationship she was finding things to call him about regarding the kids almost every day and reminding him of games and texting him at night. He thought it no big deal, it was about the kids!! I said I am not having a 3 way relationship. 1 of us has to go.
so he gently started ignoring some of her silly texts and when she sent him reminders about the kids he would say I know. he has slowed it down major to probably no more than twice a week. (their kids are 9 & 13)
I Think she wanted him but didn’t want him and certainly didn’t want him wanting me.
following their break up he had a rocky relationship for a year with an out of twon woman and his ex-w never even met her. So I am his first serious relationship and the reason he asked her for a divorce and the only other woman he has ever lived with.
I think she is good a playing the nice girl while being very manipulative. He didn’t see it and says they are just friends. (after seperating they used to still hang out with each other a little, friends camping trips, her birthday party at their old house) etc.
I think they were still a little hung up on each other. He until recently would always defend her against anything I said about her which worried me badly!!
One of the things she would do that I thought was very disrespectful was if one of their girls were sick she would call his cell and if she didn’t get him would start calling their parents to get someone to take them so she could go to work. Half the time he was still sleeping & I was up but didn’t hear his cell or notice it if I was in the shower. we lived together, and had been for over a year at that point. I finally put my foot down and said tell her to call my cell if she cant get you. I am in the same bloody house!! He asked her why she wasn’t trying my cell and she just said she didn’t have my cell number!! after a year!! ( I had text her before to ask permission to get girls for My So’s birthday shopping and stuff) so I guess she deleted me. I think these are games… He thinks nothing of it.
so anyway, now you have re cap for those who haven’t seen my other posts. I mention to my gf that I find my SO’s EX-w to be a little manipulative and I don’t trust her “friendlyness” and she tells me his ex-w broke up with the guys she was seeing 6 months ago because she was still in love with my SO! They have been seperated for 4 years now and we have been together 1.5. & I’ve know him for about 5 years.
I do think he was a little hung up on her when we started going out but I feel that is not the case anymore or I’m hoping not the case anymore.
So do I tell my SO so he knows I am not crazy in how I am reading her and he can make sure to not be too friendly with her.
or do I just keep it to myself ? He may defend her anyway, He tells me he doesn’t think she is all that but when he used to talk about her he ceratinly had nothing but good things to say about her.