Post # 1
This is kind of a stupid question, but it’s been bothering me!
I for some reason really want to cry at my wedding, which won’t be a problem at all because every wedding I’ve been to I’ve been holding back tears. I also think it would be nice if Fiance cried… I feel like people think the couple must be really in love if they cry and also it would just be so sweet!
Anyway, I have a friend who said she didn’t cry but her Fiance did, and she thinks it’s because she was “liquored up” and he hadn’t had anything to drink. I know our venue gives us alcohol while getting ready if we want. What do you think, more or less likely to cry? Either emotions will be intensified or we will just be too happy to cry?
**edit: Let me rephrase this: I only want to cry because I know that’s natural for me. If I have one drink, would that change. And reading these replies has made me realize that my friend was probably slightly drunk, which I think is very trashy and not at all what I want, so it probably won’t make any difference at all.
Post # 3
First of all…please dont try and force your wedding emotions on your day. Just let everything flow. There is nothing worse then a bride with a fake cry lol.
But i think it depends more on you. I tend to get more emotional when i drink. I know that i will prod have a class of champange to toss back before i walk down….althugh i doubt that it is going to stop my ugly cry.
Just do what feels right for you…people will be able to see your love no matter what.
Post # 4
@MrsStrawberry24:lol! I won’t fake cry, I promise! It would just be disappointing to me if I didn’t because I ALWAYS cry at weddings. And I didn’t cry when he proposed and it surprised me.
I get super happy when I drink, but I also get really lovey if he’s around.
Basically I’m just wondering if I really want to have anything to drink before ceremony, obviously it would be a very small amount because I want to remember every detail!
Post # 5
i think this is a very strange question, but okay…
first of all… why do you care if other people think you are more or less in love because of crying? and i don’t think anyone really thinks that… that’s really weird.
second… if you or your Fiance are only crying because of alcohol, it will forever be in your mind as fake or staged. it would for me.
third… to drink enough to really influence one emotion or another, i think you’d have to drink quite alot. do you want to be drunk at your own wedding?
as for the actual question of if it would make you cry…. that depends on the type of person you are when you drink. if you are a weepy person when you drink, then yes.
Post # 6
oh whew! your second post clears things up a bit. i thought you really wanted to get sloshed just to cry and now i see that you are talking a very small amount.
i really don’t think a glass of wine will do much to influence your emotions. if you are someone can use a drink to soothe your nerves, it might calm you even.
Post # 7
A little probably wouldnt affect you…
My Matron of Honor made it a point not to drink very much as she was certain she would cry during her speech. She felt that she’d be far more in control of her emotions if she were not drinking.
Post # 8
I’m more worried about being anxious the morning of! I’ll be sipping on a mimosa or two just to calm myself down!
Post # 9
Wow. I wouldn’t get too upset if you or your spouse does not cry on your wedding day. The amount of emotions you will most likely feel will be overwhelming and everyone reacts differently to that. I’m one to laugh when I’m full of emotions, so I can see myself giggling during the ceremony.
I dont think alcohol will have anything to do with if either of you will or will not cry. In fact, unless you are getting tipsy beforehand (which seems really irresponsible and the exact opposite of what you want to accomplish), it probably wont do a thing for your regular emotions.
But, if you want to try it out, you could always have a couple glasses of wine and watch Titantic and see if it makes you cry more or less than it usually will.
Post # 10
@rosworms:I was about to clear all that up until I saw this second post! I don’t want to drink to influence my emotions. I’m asking if drinking will KEEP me from crying which is what I don’t want. I know that completely sober I WILL cry. Just wondering if drinking would change that.
I know it’s a weird question, one of those things that has crossed my mind but then it sounds like a big deal when you put it in words.
I just think it’s sweet when people cry, I don’t think it’s necessary by any means, I’m just saying I don’t want to ruin my natural reaction by drinking.
Post # 11
I wouldn’t drink too much, not more than one glass of champagne. A marriage is a legal contract and one of the requirements is that the parties signing the contract have not been drinking!
Post # 12
I’d be more worried about needing to use the bathroom during the ceremony than crying if I had a drink beforehand… but that’s just me (and my bladder!) and that’s why I’ll wait until the reception 🙂
Post # 13
@kerri13: Odd question, indeed. But I guess I would just look at your history. Do you routinely get emotional (like many people) when you drink? I don’t, I get less emotional when I drink, so I would be less likely.
(I remember everyone balling as we all said goodbye to each other after college graduation – after a night of drinking – which would normally make me lose it, but I was happy and optimistic as a clam)