Post # 1
So we all know how it goes.
You buy these damn invitations. You buy these damn reply cards. You buy all the damn postage. You send out the damn envelopes.By the date you requested your response, you’re missing, oh you know, 60 replies!!!! I was told to expect this but here’s the RSVP that makes me really mad.
I emailed the guest to find out if he and his wife would be able to make it. His response:
Is that all you can muster up? Not, “Oh gosh I’m so sorry! The cat peed on your RSVP card. We’d love to make it, we just can’t but we’re so happy for you!”
Do accept my apologies. I shouldn’t have bothered you with $3 worth of paper and postage if I knew you’d respond in this manner.
Post # 3
Is this a friend or family member?
Post # 4
You should give a few days for more to pour in before contacting people. Mail service is dependent on the area you live in… ours is often slower than other people’s from what I have been told by friends.
Post # 5
@missjuli: it’s better than “I thought by neglecting to respond you’d take the hint that I don’t want to go to your wedding”.
Post # 6
Ah I’m sorry – that really stinks! I’m dreading this.
Post # 7
I had one of my fiance’s aunts write a facebook comment on a status asking if we wanted the rsvp back even though we knew they were coming.
she works for the post office too.
Post # 8
@GoldStar: I had asked for the responses by May 1st. I contacted this person on the 6th.
Post # 9
@EffieTrinket: Friend. They moved away to a faraway state. Before they moved, the wife indicated that they’d come back for the wedding.
Post # 10
@missjuli: At that point, if it were me, I’d ask her about it. Just send a message asking if everything was ok, and that the rsvp seemed a bit unexpected (and curt!) in light of the fact that they’d previously expressed interest in going.
If it’s awkward, you don’t have to ever see them again, and if it IS awkward, chances are you wouldn’t want to anyway. Maybe it’s just something like they have a work thing that weekend or whatever.
Post # 11
@missjuli: tell me about. My Fi side has not replied. I asked his step mom about it and she said.’ oh they prob think they dont have to rsvp’. WTH, um yes, why wouldn’t you!? End rant. Good luck :).
Post # 12
I remember being hurt by the just “no” responses. Not so much because they weren’t coming but they didn’t take the time to say congratulations or anything. These things happen. It probably won’t be the last.