Post # 1
Fi and I have had great difficulty coordinating with immediate family to set a date. To make a long story short, his sister finally agreed to change her plans so that we could have the date of our dreams. Fiance did not want to have the wedding on a date when his sister refused to come or had a bad attitude about coming, so we were going to have to wait and schedule a later date than we had really wanted, but now, months down the line, it looks like his sister is being flexible and is willing to change her plan. THe only problem is that the date setting process has taken months and months, and our dream date is only about 3 months away now, and i’m wondering whether the stress of planning a wedding — even a small wedding — in that time would be worth it.
For those of you who are married . . . . looking back, what is more important? Having the date you wanted so you can celebrate your anniversary on a day that has special significance, or having more time to plan your wedding? What would you prioritize if you could go back?
Post # 3
@Miss Mochaccino: If you are truly planning a small simple wedding then choose the date you want. It really is special to celebrate your anniversary on a date that is not ordinary. But if your wedding is not something that is going to be fairly easy to set up then think about a JOP or elopement for the date and push the party down the road a few months.
Post # 4
my hubby and I just picked a random date but now it is special cause it was our wedding… and we still get to celebtrate every other special day we have.
As for planning…. if it is small enough, I would just do it. I found planning a wedding VERY stressful and I sometimes wished I had less time, so I would be stressed for that short period and be done with it.
Post # 5
Since you’re planning a small wedding, I would go with a date that was special. After planning a big wedding, I really realized that its not the details that are important. You get to really get the feeling that its about you and your SO getting married in the presence of friends and family. You’re celebrating your love for one another. (Yes, it might sound cheesy, but it took a while for that to really sink in to me) People can tell you that all they want but you may not understand it fully until you experience the realization yourself.
My advice, don’t sweat the small stuff. Also….. delegate. Say it with me… DE-LE-GATE!
All the best! And good luck with which ever you choose.
Post # 6
Ladies, thank you. Everything you’ve shared here is just so encouraging. I feel less overwhelmed already. I just know that it will be so special to celebrate on our special date for the rest of our lives . . . and it is a small wedding that we’re planning (only 30-50 people) so, I think it will be doable. Thanks again!