Post # 1
My mother and I are in disagreement over whether or not it’s rude to not provide a breakfast the morning after the wedding for guests who have stayed over.
The hotel we are staying at charges $16.95 plus tax and gratuity for breakfast which I think is completely unreasonable for what they give you (glorified continental breakfast).
With 200 invited guests and many of them telling us they will be booking hotel rooms, this could get very pricey.
What are your thoughts?
Post # 3
I fail to see how this is rude in any way after you spent a small fortune on them at the reception.
Post # 4
No freaking way.
Especially as not everyone eats breakfast/might not be up early after a heavy one the night before.
If your mum wants to pay, let her pay, but DO NOT feel pressured into doing this.
Post # 6
No way! That’s ridiculous
Post # 7
If it’s a destination wedding, everyone is staying in a resort, your all going to meet up for breakfast the following day and continue the party. Then maybe. But otherwise I would not. It’s a really lovely idea and would be a way of extending the wedding. But it’s expensive, its asking for more time from your guests and as a guest I wouldn’t think it was necessary…and you may want to hide in your room and have breakfast in bed entertaining each other rather than entertaining your friends and family!
Post # 8
Posting to follow. My mother and I comtinue to go back and forth over this same issue.
Post # 9
@FutureMrsLadolcetta: I have no idea why your mum would think that! You provided a reception for them, that is perfectly enough.
Post # 10
We’re hosting a brunch in the hotel for all of our guests the next morning, however we’re also having a small wedding (~50 guests). If we were having 200 there is no way we’d be able to afford that and I wouldn’t really feel too bad about it. I certainly don’t think its rude not to feed them breakfast.
Post # 11
I wouldn’t worry about it. That cost is much too expensive. People may want to leave early or sleep in anyhow.
Post # 12
Ummm I would never expect such a thing, you Mom is way out of line to expect this from you. Like PP’s have said, some people may not even make it to breakfast. Don’t stress, let everyone fend for themselves and enjoy your breakfast with your hubbyt, in bed 😉
Post # 13
I feel like these morning after breakfasts/brunches are gaining in popularity and thus, seeming necessary. We’re having a semi-DW and many people will be getting hotel rooms. If people want to meet up and go to a diner, that’s fine, but we’re not footing the bill.
Post # 14
you do not need to provide anything else other than reception. if you don’t want to pay for everyone, you can maybe word something like join the bride and groom for a farewell breakfast but make sure it is clear that guests need to pay for themselves.
we are providing breakfast for our family, hotel guests, and bridal party the next morning. we negatiated with our hotel for better food at a lesser cost. we only have about 50 people who will be coming to the breakfast, we are not inviting everyone from the wedding.
Post # 15
I wouldn’t expect it, I’ve only been to 1 wedding that did it. That said, FH and I are intending to do one. That said – he works at the hotel where our guests will stay and we can likely get a better deal. We will also only have about 50 guests. I would see if the hotel will let you pay for a portion of the guests who actually book rooms in your block as not everyone will show up. Talk to the events co-ordinator, see if they can ‘beef up’ the selction. Add scrambled eggs and bacon or something? These things cost the hotel very little, you might be able to get a little more bang for your buck if you ask!
Post # 16
It’s something that’s nice, but not necessary. I’m having brunch the next morning for all our guests, but it’s a destination wedding and guest list of 24. With such a large guest list, I think it would be way too expensive and don’t blame you for not wanting to do it!