Post # 1
Hello lovely Bees!
I am playing with the idea of a morning vow ceremony in my hometown (after my courthouse wedding in NYC.) The problem is, that I have planned this ceremony for a Friday. Originally I had planned it for an evening ceremony. However, plans are getting harried and I am now scheduled to be on a 7 am flight the next morning. I thought a morning ceremony / brunch reception would be a good solution. Then my father pointed out that its a weekday morning and some people won’t be able to make it due to work.
What are your thoughts?
Post # 3
For me it would depend on how close I was to you. There are very few people I would take off work for in order to attend a vow renewal and brunch 🙁 but thats just me. I do love brunch receptions though!
Post # 4
Probably 99% of your guest list would not be able to come due to work or school. You’re basically forcing every single one of your guests to take a vacation day or sick day off of school to come to your wedding. Is there no other day it could possibly be? I have a feeling a LOT of people won’t come because of when it is!
Post # 5
I really think that weekday ceremonies are a bad idea. I’m sure people would want to attend if possible, but if they can’t for whatever reason they’ll just end up feeling bad.
Post # 6
The only people invited to this are immediate relatives. Aunts, Uncles, Parents, Grandparents, etc…
The brunch was a cost cutting idea that turned into a kind of exciting theme idea. I can definitely live without it though.
Also, there is another option, have it at night. Which is still definitely an option. I just wanted your perspective!
Thanks for your input! 🙂
Post # 7
I don’t know. If you’ll be content with only the people closest to you being able to attnd, it’s fine, but since it’s a morning, there will definitely be people who won’t be able to attend.
It’s okay, just be prepared for more NO RSVP’s than you would get at another time.
I’m also doing a weekday, but its later in the day. I accept that there will be people unable to attend the ceremony at 4:30, but should be able to still attend our evening reception.
Post # 8
It is totally true that you will have less guests on a Friday morning than you would have otherwise. People who are truly important will probably be there for the most part, but you may also want to consider that some people who are important and really want to be there may not be able to be there. They might feel really bad about this…
Post # 9
I’d switch it to the night. I was thinking about this and I’d probably only show up if you were my brother or sister. My aunts/uncles/cousins, not so much.
Post # 10
i am having a court house ceremony on april 15th which is a friday at 11:30 am. I only expected our parents to show up bc it was an inconvienent time but actually a lot of people were hurt bc i didnt tell them about it. i figured it would be hard for people to get off work and we are planning a party in the summer to celebrate with more people. as long as you arent offended if people cant come, you know the people that do show up truly care. (and who doesnt want a long weekend off work anwways! lol)
Post # 11
We had a morning courthouse ceremony on a Friday (10 AM) and my suggestion is this: Invite only the people who are closest to you, because weekday mornings are hard for most people to fit in. We had our reception the next day in the afternoon, so we could still celebrate with those who weren’t at our actual wedding.
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
How many people are you inviting? Personally, I would not take a day off work to go to a vow ceremony for someone who was already civilly married. I suppose I might consider if it were one of my brothers or something, but I’m not sure: if the point of having a vow ceremony is to share something with people who couldn’t be at the legal wedding, a weekday morning is the wrong time to do it.