(Closed) Morning Wedding

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

it sounds nice, but i imagine it would be more convenient for your 15 guests to do it on a weekend date?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

@t-bear: I think that sounds amazing! I second the thought on changing it to a weekend date however. It is often hard for people to get off work on weekdays.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I haven’t but it sounds so sweet and romantic! I love it!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I have not been to anything like this…but it does sound sweet and romantic!

Post # 7
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Honey bee

I’ve been to a couple morning weddings and they were great. However, be prepared for alot of declines since the reception is held so long afterward, as people will be offended that they are considered to be an “afterthought” even if that is not your intention at all.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

If your 15 guests are available on a weekday morning, that sounds lovely. 

Likely these guests are immediate family (parents? grandparents?) and some may not be working or may be retired.  Others probably would move mountains to witness her wedding (we all have a few people like this!)

Before we tell t-bear she might want to adjust her plans, let’s giver her the benefit of the doubt – she knows her guests, I bet she considered their schedules!

Morning weddings can be so romantic!  The brunch will give you a nice, relaxed and intimate time with those special people who witnessed your union, and hopping in a canoe sounds charming and personal.  Does that fit with a hobby or a personality of you and/or your FH?

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Ember78: Why do you think that a weekend reception (2 days after the vows?) will seem like an afterthought?  I don’t see how it is any different that the reception that Destination Wedding brides hold after returning from their DW/honeymoon.

I don’t think that t-bear should expect a significantly different RSVP or turn-out rate than if the wedding ceremony were held immediatly preceding the reception.

Post # 11
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Honey bee

@UmbrellaMom, it is rude (read any etiquette book, since it does not change no matter how much people want it to) to have the reception on a different day from the ceremony. If guests are not invited to the ceremony, they should receive an announcement, not a reception invite. It’s also rude to invite people to the reception only and not the ceremony. You’d be amazed at the number of people who are offended by this type of thing and are verbal about the fact that they would never attend such a thing, while others don’t care and don’t see anything wrong with it “because everyone else does it so it’s ok”.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Ember78: t-bear is hosting a very proper brunch reception for the guests who attend the ceremony.  That is a reception.

While it might be more correct to call an event held after she and her new husbnad return from a honeymoon a “party” it is not wrong to throw a large party celebrating the wedding their happiness. 

Etiquette has always allowed a married couple to host a large party for their friends.  Since etiquette does not require that these guests send a gift to attend (just a thank you card), I don’t know exactly why you are pointing to an etiquette book.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@t-bear:  I think it sounds really romantic!  Go for it!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@t-bear: Sorry. t-bear.  We hijacked your thread a bit there.  You didn’t ask about the etiquette of having a celebration for a larger group of family and friends at a later date.

I think that the ceremony you have planned sounds lovely and intimate.  If that is the feel that you are trying to achieve, then you seem to be on the right track!

As for the larger celebration afterwards, as long as IT is scheduled for the weekend, I believe that you will have a good turn out.  (Opinions may vary, as evidenced by previous conversation.)

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