Post # 1
We’re planning a simple 10am wedding in late June, but FH and I aren’t exactly on the same page for what kind of reception to have. A brunch menu is already in the works, but FH is thinking we instead have a cake-and-punch reception. First look will be at 8:30 and family photos at 9am at a beautiful state park just 5 min from the venue, which is fine with everyone involved! Ceremony and recepetion is at our church, so most of the set-up is the day before.
No one is traveling out-of-town, so that’s not a factor. We’ll be providing coffee/tea for before the ceremony, and after. As of now we have a brunch of egg/tofu scrambles, bacon, potatoes, yogurt/fruit bar, and pasteries/donuts instead of cake. This is totaling $1300 which is in-budget (my parents are graciously paying!)
However, FH is wanting a much simpler cake-and-punch reception like his sister did at her wedding, with our exit at 11:30 or noon. That leaves so many options!
- If it’s just cake and punch, we NEED to provide something savory. Would tea sandwiches compliment this well?
- Is cake expected, or are breakfast pastries/donuts okay? Or maybe a strawerry shortcake bar where FH and I serve the guests! (I’ve seen something similar done and thought it was adorable!) Plus fruit? I just don’t want anyone feeling hangry.
- I imagined brunch and lawn games, and FH thinks we can still have that without a whole brunch served. Where’s the middle ground that guests will feel comfortable?
Thanks for your input! The morning wedding is ideal for our family/wedding party because the entire day won’t be taken up by the wedding.
Post # 2
- Wedding: August 2019 - Mountains
I like the idea of having a ‘meal’ more than just a basic continental breakfast of coffee/donuts or cake/punch.
Post # 3
I like your last idea of having lawn games! But I think you need to serve brunch food if you expect people to be happy and want to play some games. I think the spread you mentioned is plenty and filling without being over the top. Sounds like a lovely day!!
Post # 4
If your ceremony is at 10am and you want it wrapped up by 11:30/12 then I think cake and punch is fine. The reality is people will have had breakfast at 8 or so and they probably won’t be hungry for a proper brunch meal.
Post # 5
I would be ok with just donuts and coffee if it was a short reception to say congrats; if I was still hungry I could get lunch on my own after. But if you want your guests to stay long enough for lawn games then yes, I would provide something more substantial.
Post # 6
I would expect a brunch. Cake and punch I associate with a very short wedding nowhere near a meal time (so 2-4 in the afternoon). You’re squeezing yourself in prime brunch time. A cake is a personal preference – I think the donuts idea is cute and on theme!
Post # 7
saarnlo : I think your brunch idea sounds fine. What is your fiance’s objection?
Regarding cake, it would be nice but not required. A strawberry shortcake bar is cute but as a guest, I would feel really awkward to have the bride and groom serving at their wedding. I wouldn’t like that tbh. I’d rather get my own and chat with couple before or after.