Post # 1
I am getting married next year. Fiance and I are paying and we don’t want to drop a lot of cash on a reception, I’d rather use more money for a designer gown and an exotic HM.
To cut the cost of the reception (small, about 80 people) we were thinking of doing a brunch reception. Any thoughts?
I know it will be painfully boring for my group of 20-something friends, but I don’t think my family will mind. And truthfully, I don’t care if people leave early — I’m kind of counting on it actually.
Has anyone done this? Any feedback from your guests? I know when people think of wedding receptions they think of dancing and drinking at night — this will be very different. I’m not sure what to do…
Post # 3
This may seem scatterbrianed, I’m mid-glass-merlot…..
Keep the big picture in mind. You’re getting MARRIED… People will come to share this moment with you. Yeah the big party is fun but its not what its all about ya know? If you’re worried about your friends, have an after party or kick ass bacholerette party.
We are having an early evening reception at our church (3pm-8pm). yeah its not exactly an all night, black tie afair but its a coming together of our friends and family, having a nice dinner and enjoy SOME dancing. We are just going to play it by ear when it ends, possibly go to a pub nearby that my Fiance and I frequent often.
BUT still keep in mind that although even one says "oh honey, its your day!", it really isn’t (well bottom line it is but you know what i mean). Talk to your parents and friends and get a feel of what they might like or dislike. you may be able to find a happy medium. (formal rehersal dinner?)
Post # 4
I think it’s a great idea and I have serious issues with the guest who think they are "owed" a big party and an open bar. This is supposed to be a celebration about your love and commitment and not about getting drunk on the bride and grooms tab. IMO!!! One of the best cost cutting tips I ever heard was to have an alternative reception. We’re having out ceremony at 2pm and then following it with a "cookie reception" catered by a good friend who recently opened her own bakery. We’re also going to have good coffee with lots of flavored syrups and goodies to put in it. We’ll most likely end up spending less than $500 on the food. We’ve structured our reception so that there is a flow to it and put the itinerary in the program so pleople don’t end up standing around looking at each other wondering what’s going on. If you want to see our itinery just let me know. I think it’s going to work very well even though it’ll all be in the same room. We’re planning on leaving by 5pm which will give people time to clean up and then go to dinner since we’re not feeing them. One thing I did do though was to make it clear in the invitation that we’re only serving cookies and coffee that way people know to eat lunch before they come. As far as alternative receptions go, I think that’s the only major thing… let your guests know what to expect. Good luck and let me know if I can help!
Post # 5
I think you should have any wedding you want, and if you want a small, early reception, that’s completely your and your FI’s decision.
In my personal opinion though, I don’t quite understand the decision for a fancy designer gown over a decent meal for your guests. It always struck me as odd when a bride chooses to wear a super fancy formal gown and also chooses to give her guests little or no food.
But you need not care for my opinion, who am I to you, after all? I’m just warning you that some of your guests may share my feelings.
Post # 6
I think a brunch reception could be great, especially if your wedding is a more casual one. You can really go all out with beautiful pastries and other dishes, including mimosas, maybe an exotic juice bar, and coffee drinks. And I imagine the cost would be lower, given the relative lack of alcohol. But it might not be as much lower as you think, believe me. A really good brunch can be pricey, and if it’s not a really good brunch, then it’s not really worth doing. Just make sure your guests don’t have any reason to gossip, "I can’t believe she bought that dress and then fed us cold cereal and fruit salad!" 😉
Post # 7
A brunch/luncheon reception is a great idea (IMO.. I’m partial since that’s what we’re doing). We chose to do such for a variety of reasons
1) Our wedding will be held in a resort town where it’s bloody expensive to get married. (Even with a luncheon we’re looking at $38 per person.. a supper would’ve been twice that).
2) All of our guests will be traveling – but some not as far as others so they could easily make it to our wedding as a ‘day trip’ and go home again that night. If we have a morning wedding/reception they don’t have to shell out for accomodation (which is very expensive around here) unless they want to.
3) No alcohol! Cuts a -lot- of cost out.
4) For our younger friends who will be staying in town we will be having an after-party. After the wedding my fiance and I will go and have photos done, spend some quality time together, go out for a fancy dinner (just the two of us) at one of our favorite restaurants in town.. and then go to the after party (which is nothing more than us saying to our friends "Oh hey! We’re going to be at such and such at such and such time… see you there!" ) hence we may pay for some appetizers to be shared around but don’t have to pay for our friends to drink.
Post # 8
You could go the old school route and serve punch and cake. If it was good enough for my grandma…. 🙂