- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
You haven’t done anything because it’s hard. It’s like pulling off a bandaid, times fifty thousand plus emotional wreckage. Please don’t be down on yourself.
But now you’re at the point where you clearly see the problems (or else you wouldn’t be posting here). Sorry for the shout, but DO NOT PASS GO.
Like a PP said, wait for him to leave, pack what you need, and go stay with a friend. If you decide to stay in the relationship, make that clear, but require counseling as a condition. Work through the problem. Then proceed.
No one who knows the story would judge you. And even if they did, who cares? They’re not the ones in the relationship.
Sometimes people can change, but not often. When they do, it requires a huge wakeup call and a commitment to a lot of work. Your leaving might be it, and if he really wants to, he’ll help work through the issues. But your health, safety, and happiness are most important, and they’re not going to be nurtured in the type of relationship you’ve described.
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