Post # 1
What is the most frequently encountered question or comment on your wedding? Aside from “congratulations,” we often get asked why we had a private ceremony and then a reception several months later. It doesnt bother me too much to explain.
Post # 2
The one I get the most is “why are you even bothering to have a wedding? You’re just wasting your money. Just go to the courthouse”. That’s usually said my my mother and FI’s mother. We just explain that we want to do it this way, we are having a small-ish group (50 people) and since we are paying for the whole thing, we’re going to do what we want for OUR wedding.
The most common question from other non-family people: Where are you getting married?
Post # 3
“When’s the day?” It’s an innocent enough question, but because I’m having a small wedding (less than 90 people invited), I feel awkward when I have to give up information about my wedding and can’t follow up with “you’ll have to come!” I know people aren’t intentionally fishing for an invitation, but that’s what it feels like a little bit.
Post # 4
Most common question from family “Why so far??” It’s about an hour for most guests. It sucks having to explain we loved the venue and there’s really nothing like it in the city.
From non-family or non-wedding guests: “How’s the wedding planning coming along?” I dread this question. I answer with a simple, “good, just plugging along!” but am always torn – are they asking to be polite or do they really want to know, especially when they continue to ask follow up questions.
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2015 - Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception / Courtyard Marriott Legacy Ballroom
I’ve had the typical “where” and “what’s the date” questions, but one sort of non-typical one that has come up is “why are you having the ceremony so early?” – our ceremony starts at 10 am and we’re having a lunch reception right afterwards. Lol, I just tell them we didn’t want a dinner reception or to have hours inbetween the ceremony and reception. The truth is we wanted to be able to spend the rest of the evening together by ourselves, which we are totally doing no matter what our respective parents want
Post # 6
“Have you set a date yet?”
Understandable from friends and casual acquaintances, but very annoying from family. I’ve told them over and over, “when we know, you’ll know,” but certain family members insist on asking every time we talk, which is frequently.
“Don’t you want a real wedding?”
I’ve gotten this a couple of times since settling on a courthouse/restaurant reception arrangement. I dislike feeling like I have to convince friends that a courthouse wedding IS a real wedding, and explaining our various reasons for choosing to go this route.
Post # 7
Friends have been asking recently, “what do you have left to do?” I don’t mind giving them a quick “oh, just this and this” so as not to bore them about it, but seriously they ask and then practically the care washes from their face. At least nod and pretend to care for a half second!
Other than that it’s the typical when, where, oh that’s nice.
Post # 8
I also keep getting the “Whens the date” question from friends and family, because we have been engaged for 2 years and don’t have a date yet. I don’t mind though, I like talking about the venues we have in mind and its just slow going because I live across the country from where my family lives (and where are getting married) and I haven’t gotten to see my top venue yet. I hope to set a date in a couple weeks after flying home!
It’s certainly a better question than “Are you guys even still getting married?”
Post # 9
I have heard the word “unique” used to describe my wedding by almost every guest and vendor. I can’t decide if it’s good or bad.
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2015 - Barn with apple orchard
Definitely “is there an open bar?” because all our friends are lushes. In the best possible way.
Post # 12
“Where’s my invite”… 13 months into planning and I literally just give those people blank stares now adays
Post # 13
It’s been awhile, but I remember some.
“Are you excited?” No, I’m fucking dreading it like the plague.
“Now, who are his parents?” You don’t know them; he’s not from here. I actually married someone outside our county.
“Who’s giving you away? (since my dad died the year before) My mom. She’s my other parent remember.
Post # 14
My main comment I receive (always from my FFIL) is “you don’t need to spend so much on a wedding, Me and *FH step mum* got married for £900 and it was lovely” no matter how much I tell him prices have gone up in 14 years, and how we have saved hard towards our perfect day he just doesn’t stop! grr rant over 🙂