Post # 1
is everyone trying to “educate” you and “letting you know” about things. I promise, I somehow made it to 34 and am doing fine- I don’t need an article from yahoo.com to guide me through this.
This morning a girlfriend sent me this link:
Upon clicking, the first reason is that vernix is a natural skin protectant. It goes on to say that the vernix is a natural skin moisturizer (have you ever felt a just born and thought “this baby could use some lotion”???) and immunity booster. BUT the very next line states: It’s important to note that the research is on the properties of the vernix but as of now there is no clinical data to prove this connection.
Basically, this is misinformation being passed as fact and I replied with such. She then told me that I am just going along with how things are done and not questioning things. JEEZ. At the end of the day, I want my baby to be breathing and have a healthy beating heart. When he has a bath is of almost zero importance.
Why does being pregnant mean I need help figuring out what I want to do with my life and my baby’s life? This never happened before.
Sorry for the rant…
Post # 3
@mamadingdong: Yep! I feel like the SECOND I told people that I’m pregnant, I joined a club. I have heard more torn-vagina birth stories and received more articles about why I should eat the placenta/wash my baby in safflower oil/drink tea for my uterus/Ferberize/not Ferberize/cloth diaper/disposable diaper/find out the sex/WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU YOU CAN’T FIND OUT THE SEX/start my fetus’ Harvard application…
And while I LOVE birth stories, the articles I could do without! Unless the APA approves the study and its findings, I’m really not interested in your VooDoo!
Also, I’ve spent the last two years working in commercial infant care. I know every rule and reg in the book forwards and backwards! So telling me “Well MY babies slept on their stomachs and were FINE” Isn’t going to change my mind about putting newborns to sleep on their backs!
Post # 4
@BrandNewBride: oh sister! I work for an NCI designated cancer hospital. We are ALL ABOUT research. I couldn’t sleep at night if I ever presented my doctor with a printout from yahoo saying that I don’t want to give my baby a bath until I take him home from the hospital.
It makes me think of the parents that “research” vaccines by googling. Find actual scientific data to back your choices and I will support it.
We ended up having an email argument about it and I don’t feel bad one iota.
Post # 5
@mamadingdong: That is PHENOMENAL and HILARIOUS.
“Yes, doctor? This Yahoo article says ____________. So I know you went to college for like, 10 years or something, but I think they know what they’re talking about. They’re on Yahoo.”
We once had a couple that didn’t want to vaccinate their kid. My boss asked them if it was because of autism, and the husband replied “No, there’s no link between vaccines and autism. We just don’t want to.”
Oh, good. They just don’t want to.
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH SO MUCH RRRRRRAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGEEEEEE
Post # 6
welcome to parenting!!! being told a whole lot of crap, whether you want to hear it or not and being expected to take on that advice because someone told you ‘thats the way to do it!’
hate to tell you, but…. it honestly never ends…. ever.
just let it go in one ear, out the other, and use what fits with your beliefs.
Post # 7
@BrandNewBride: OMG with the vaccination! I’m not sure what’s dumber- thinking there is an autism link or choosing not to do it just because.
@wifey2be: learning this lesson over and over. MAN. why can’t people just let you make your own choices???
Post # 8
@mamadingdong: I’m only 10w so I haven’t been getting a lot of unsolicited advice because no one really knows I’m pregnant yet but my Father-In-Law did feel as though it was appropriate to cut an article out of the news paper and mail it to me BEFORE I was KU about migraine medications & pregnancy how they were bad etc… (which I already knew). The post it note said, “for when the time comes F.Y.I., Love Dad” WTF? We hadn’t told them we were going to TTC anytime soon.. and they still don’t know I’m KU.
To date the best advice I’ve heard is, “ignore everything everyone else tells you and do what you feel is best.”
Post # 9
@mamadingdong: It gets worse or at least it doesn’t stop. Now that I have an actual baby I am still getting a TON of “advice” and if I hear “before you know it that baby will be in college!” one more time I’ll scream. he’s 3.5 months old we’ll deal with preschool in a couple years and then think ab college how about that?
Post # 10
@mamadingdong: god knows! i guess people just love to put thier two cents worth when it comes to babies and pregnancies.
Wait till you get a belly and random people think they can come up to you and touch your belly. fully creeps me out. in the end i used to block them and literally tell them not to touch me. lol.
oooh and then there is the people who want to come up and touch your new born babies face and hands in the middle of cold and flu season! did i mention without asking too! I had one woman literally pull up the cover i had on my pram in the supermarket one day to try to touch my babies cheek. she is so lucky the lazer beems in my eyes were broken that day cause she would have been a smouldering pile of ash on the floor!
Post # 11
@mamadingdong: Obnoxious! I think it’s pretty much every first time mom’s biggest complaint! I’m sure I’ll be getting loads of it, now that the news is starting to make it’s way around.
Luckily, my sister has been super helpful. She’s like I need to tell you some things just so you are prepared because no one told me some of these things and I freaked out so you should know them, which I totally appreciate!
Once you’ve given birth, you can look forward to all the fun parenting advice people will try and give you! 😛