Post # 1
I’ve spent the past year working on my wedding trying to make sure everything was perfect. I had every detail worked out and all my DIY projects completed. We had a beautiful venue and got a good deal on the catering because the venue wanted to buy my stuff after the wedding.
Sound like I had it under control right? WRONG!
First of all the lady that owns my venue has some serious problems. She told me she was going to have all the tables set up, that she had purchased the extra tables we needed and that she was borrowing chairs from the local fire dept. so we would have enough for the ceremony and the reception. ALL LIES. When my mom went to the venue this past Thursday to start dressing the tables there was nothing set up and there were cleaning supplies and tools laying everywhere. After playing phone tag forever I finally spoke to the owner and she said she would get the linens ironed and put on the tables the next day since that’s what my mom was there to do and couldn’t. Meanwhile I picked up my dress from the cleaners to discover a big stain on the hem and that the lining had never been hemmed. So I had to take it back to the alterations place for them to sew it so I could take it back to the cleaners for the stain the next morning.
On Friday I ran errands all day picking up the rehearsal dinner food and last minute items. I was late getting to the venue because my fiance accidentally took my car keys with him out there and had to bring them back. I get to the venue to discover the tables were not set up correctly and none of the linens had been ironed. So instead of enjoying the evening and spending time with friends and family we were there until 2 am trying to get things set up. We had to rent the extra round tables that we needed because the owner said she ran out of money and didn’t have enough to buy more tables (after she had told us that she had bought them). She also didn’t have the right size rectangular tables so the linens didn’t fit. When we tried to call her she said she had given us a good deal on the catering so she didn’t have to set anything up and if we wanted her to do anything we needed to pay her the other $1500 we OWED her. We had paid for everything in full! We worked until we couldn’t see straight and then went up to the other barn to make sure all the food was put away. When we got up there we found the owner’s son and his girlfriend getting high in the honeymoon suite where my wedding dress was! So I had to pack it back up and we had to get all our stuff out because we were scared that they would steal something.
The day of the wedding came and everything was chaos. We were supposed to have the honeymoon suite for the girls to get ready but they were using to cook the food and had the son running up and down the stairs. I had to scream at him to get out 3 TIMES!! They had moved around our stuff so nobody could find the stuff for our cookie buffet, the guestbook tree table, the programs or bubbles or anything else. The majority of the stuff I had worked so hard on never even got unpacked. They have 3 huge dogs that they let roam loose and they scratched the ring bearer’s face and almost knocked over my wedding cake. My groom was out there setting up while the guests were already there! None of my aisle decor got put out, they had to scramble to set up the memory table for my dad and the makeup girl took off and had to be tracked down. I cried so hard they had to send my fiance up to calm me down. The ceremony ended up being over an hour late and the DJ screwed up the music. We didn’t get any pics beforehand of the bridesmaids and we only got about 5 pics afterwards because we were running so late. I don’t even have a bridal portrait.
Most people left after the ceremony because it took so long and the rest left right after dinner. Hardly anybody saw the first dance, or the cake cutting and we didn’t even do the bouquet/garter tosses because nobody was there. They served us watered down instant mashed potatoes, premade dinner rolls and ran out of roast beef. We had paid for catering for 125 people and only about 75 were there to eat and they still ran out of food. I had made a photo booth wall for guests to use and nobody even knew it was there. I also did I Spy cards for the tables that never got put out and kid’s activity books so the guests didn’t have anything to do. The entire day was a disaster!
Now the owner of the venue is threatening to sue us for slander because my fiance had posted on facebook Saturday morning about having to do everything ourselves and saying she’s going to get her people to post stuff all over facebook about me! I think we’re going to end up in court and I really don’t want to deal with it I just want my money back and forget the whole thing ever happened.
What a great start to my new life huh!
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
I am so sorry to hear this. Just remember despite all the bad you married your best friend and that truly is he most important thing here. I am so sorry everything else went up in smoke.
Post # 4
@GratefulHoops: The owner isn’t allowed to sue you for slander if that’s what actually happened. She sounds like a complete bitch. I’m so sorry your day didn’t go as planned.
Maybe you could try and get your money back somehow? I’m not very well-learned with legal stuff, but you could maybe start a case with a lawyer.
Post # 5
Ugh that’s terrible! Keep documentation of everything you can. It’s only slander if it’s untrue.
Obviously that’s so disappointing. But just try to remember that you have your amazing husband by your side, and now you get to start your lives together! Are you taking a honeymoon? If not, maybe just take a little weekend trip to celebrate finally being married together, and try to concentrate on the positives.
Post # 6
@GratefulHoops: It’s not slander if its all true. Just make sure you have some sort of documentation (or a bunch of witnesses) that can prove what you’re saying is true. Remind her also that you have detailed accounts of what was done incorrectly and that if she tries to sue you, she may be the one that ends up giving back money due to many of the items in your contract not being honored (ie. the tables, not enough food).
Post # 7
I am SO SO SO SORRY!
I agree that you need to keep documentation! I honestly dont think its slander! People need to know these things! If I were you I would even call the better business bureu!
Also, Maybe you can have a nice vowel renewal?
At least you married your dream guy!
Post # 8
I am terribly sorry to hear about this. 🙁
Post # 9
I have all of the documentation and plenty of witnesses so I’m not worried about her taking us to court. I actually wish she would so we can get our money back! I’m looking into everything I can do to fix this situation.
I’m really glad I got to marry my best friend and I will never regret that part of the day at all! Right now I’m just so mad and stressed about the rest of it that it’s hard to see the good things. The worst part is not having any pictures to look back on 🙁 But we are already talking about a vow renewal!
Post # 10
I’m not even sure what to say other than *HUGSSS*
Post # 11
Dogs? Why were there dogs there? I understand that some want dogs at their wedding but it sounds like they are the vendors dogs.
Check all of your legal papers that would involve her to make sure your in the right. While yes that is all horrible still you don’t want to find out in court that your papers say that she was in the right. Check your bank to make sure that she did get all of her money. If you have a friend or relative that’s a lawyer I would talk to that person and see if he/she would be willing to do a quick check over everything to make sure your in the right. You might have signed an agreement saying you wont say anything bad even if it’s true about her and her business. If you are 100% legally the right one tell her that if she wants she can take you to court. If she takes you to court sue her for some of what you paid her.
Post # 12
That venue owner sounds like complete trash!
Post # 13
Oh God. My wedding is in 4 days. I shouldn’t have clicked on this.
Post # 14
This totally sucks- so sorry to hear:( *hugs*
Post # 15
@GratefulHoops: OMG this is so upsetting! I don’t think she can get you for slander if your husband was telling the honest truth about what happened. I can’t believe how unprofessional she was. I would definitely take them to court if your contract was not fulfilled.
Post # 16
Just a quick update: I have filed a complaint with the better business bureau and I’m waiting on a response from the venue. I’m hoping that the BBB will side with us and make the venue give us our money back.
The owner of the venue started running her mouth and threatening us on facebook, both on my page and in private messages. I have taken screenshots and copied and pasted everything into a document in case this ends up in court. As of now I have deactivated my account so she can neither write anything else nor delete what she’s already posted.
I am in the process of removing everything wedding related from my life. I am so devastated at what happened and what has happened since that I want no reminders of that day. I am not even wearing my wedding rings. I am hoping that in time I will forget that the day even happened and I can just move on with my life. I have asked my family and friends not to mention it and anyone that took photos to please delete them. Maybe sometime in the future we can do a vow renewal and pretend this past weekend was just a horrible nightmare.