(Closed) Most Memorable Wedding EVER

posted 4 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Worker bee

Focus on the basics

make sure your guests are comfortable – have enough food and drinks ๐Ÿ˜Š 

I have been to a few weddings and nothing was extraordinary. don’t spend extra money and time to find something special to impress your guests, no one really cares about small details or massive fireworks Expect the bride ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Thats my 2 cents, but I am someone who likes to keep things simple ๐Ÿ˜€

 

 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

Weddings with a great atmosphere, and music that you just want to dance to. Good food is a plus 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

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lauren490 :  the most memorable weddings I’ve ever been to have been when the couple has tried too hard to make the day something more than it is. And it’s gone wrong or been awkward and that is literally the only reason it now stands out.

Like the music teacher who wanted her students to play the ceremony music because it was fun and quirky and memorable. The music was awful. I’m tone deaf but I think I could have done a better job.

The good weddings just blend into a mix of good food and happy feelings. Your wedding doesn’t need to be memorable to your guests. Provide them with some food, maybe some drink, give them an opportunity to catch up with old friends and make new ones and then just focus on capturing the memories you and your partner want.

Also, things will inevitably not go to plan. Don’t set the expectation as high for it be the best day anyone has experienced, then when things do go wrong it’s not the end of the world and you can enjoy your day. The more you try to make it perfect, the less likely it will be because reality rarely matches exactly what we have in our head.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

The most memorable wedding I ever went to was that of my aunt and uncle. I was six years old at the time…so THAT is saying something! We walked up a hill to a beautiful cliff over a picturesque ravine. We stood in a circle around them during the ceremony. It sounds really simple, but the imagery REALLY stuck with me my whole life!

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

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lauren490 :  All weddings are basically the same and I think you’re putting a LOT of pressure on yourself to try to make it extraordinary.  I think when people try to hard to be unique it makes things just too over the top.

I’ll give you an example.  One of my best friends got married a few years ago and was obsessed with wedding planning.  She changed her “theme” a billion times and finally went with a beachy/sea theme.  I think that was the first problem – I don’t think themes are necessary at all.  Yes, it’s nice to have a color scheme so things coordinate but when you try to have everything so perfect it comes across as stuffy.  So my friend had this Pinterest-worthy wedding and beautiful pics to show, but it was kind of boring.  She had a live band, which was great, but everything came across as so pretentious that it make a lot of us feel kind of uncomfortable.  Half the guests there she didn’t even know as they were people her parents insisted on inviting.  The bride didn’t appear to enjoy herself at all as the weather was not as she had hoped and she was so busy obsessing over the details that she lost focus in what the day was really about.

My other best friend got married a couple of months later and had more of an urban loft setting.  She had a much smaller wedding (about 100 compared to the 250 my other friend had) and it was much more casual.  Honestly, it was much more fun.  She didn’t have a theme, she didn’t have the string quartet playing during cocktail hour.  The more relaxed atmosphere allowed her guests to let themselves be more relaxed.

I usually never remember the details but I remember whether or not I liked the food and the music.  That’s not to say you have to spend a ton on either.  We had our reception at a restaurant in our home town that is known for their steaks and people to this day still rave about our wedding.  We had a smaller wedding on purpose (about 100 people) so we could have it at this place and while it certainly helped with budget, it too kept it the smaller, intimate event we wanted.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Ceremony. Booze and music. I love a short ceremony with someone awesome presiding or heartfelt vows. At the reception I need some good jams and a good bar selection. I remember the best bands and DJs and the crippling hangovers after a good wedding but I couldn’t tell you what the food was like (besides all banquet food tastes the same, don’t try to pretend it doesn’t). Don’t overthink all the special touches and Pinterest factor. Make it genuine and reflective of your relationship. Almost all weddings are the same. A lot of brides will wax poetic about how their wedding was the best wedding ever- my cousin still relives hers and it really wasn’t anything special. I’m guilty too- I have said that I would have loved to be a guest at my wedding. Destination, small, so much fun.ย 

Post # 8
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Helper bee

We attended two weddings last year and one of them was so much fun and the other was okay.

The just okay wedding – was of a very close friend of mine but there was nothing special about it. The dj wasn’t that great, the food was ok, they did have a caricaturist but I only saw him accidently as I was walking from the toilet because he was sitting in the outside area. It was cold and there was a queue so I just went to my table and forgot about him.

The awesome wedding – felt very much like the vibe of the couple, very simple but lovely. The venue was beautfiul. The bride put a string of photos in different locations of photos with their friends (I was touched to find my picture because the bride is a friend of Fiance and I don’t have any picture with the couple, but she found a group picture with me as well without them), in the bathrooms she put a basket for the girls to freshen up, during the dancing part she had flip flops for the girls/guys and some other diy objects. Those little things made an impact on me. The music as also great and the food as well.

Once we got engaged Fiance and I thought what was the difference between the two weddings – both weddings were of close friends and similar groups of people attended with us. I think the second wedding just felt more personal – and it reflected the couple.

So I think that’s what makes a wedding great, it’s the personal touches of the couple – so it no longer feels like just another wedding.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

Aside from the food being plentiful and tasty, the music being good, and the necessities like enough chairs and a comfortable venue, a bride & groom who pay attention to their guests and act like they are happy to see you is a big plus.

Weddings where the couple (not always a B&G, but 2 B’s or 2 G’s) doesn’t make the rounds & mingle aren’t as nice. I was at a wedding once where the bride was nice and chatty but the groom acted like he was being dragged along and looked bored. 

Both partners should not just act, but actually be, glad to see you and happy about their day.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Here are some highlights from weddings I’ve attended:

-personal ceremonies where the bride & groom speak directly to each other with something they have written or selected themselves (I want to have a good cry!) 

-one friend hung strings of photos of the couple through the years which was really cute and fun to look through during the reception 

-a great location where guests can stay on site (one wedding was at an amazing inn/vineyard and we had the best time all weekend since it was so cozy and fun and that great vibe carried over to the wedding) 

-good food (of course!). I find appetizers particularly memorable (one had a sweet potato samosa I’m still thinking about) 

-I love a pre-ceremony glass of champagne! 

-overall a laid back, chill vibe without too many prescribed activities for guests is great 

I also had my wedding this year. Of course I think it was awesome, but here are some things guests have mentioned specifically. While I assume people are just saying it, lots have said it was one of the most fun weddings they have been to. I’ll take it! ๐Ÿ™‚ 

-the venue was a small hotel where some guests stayed plus the event space is spacious and overlooks a waterfall. We had some rain so did everything inside but it cleared up so guests could get photos and hang out on the grounds during cocktail hour. Many guests have complimented me on the space and noted how beautiful it was there.

-booze! (A given!) 

-I did a surprise choreographed dance with the groomsmen that went over well. 

-food has been mentioned a lot (particularly these fried Brussels sprouts during cocktail hour. Random!) 

-fun DJ, people said he seemed to really get the crowd and flow of the night 

-we did a dance with me and my Father-In-Law and my husband and my mom together since they were left out of the father-daughter mother-son dances and people mentioned that it was a nice touch 

-our ceremony was written by us so it was very unique and personal. It also had a lot of humor (I was nervous it would fall flat but we actually did get laughs!). We have gotten the most comments on the ceremony with other friends saying they hoped they could match ours, etc., and others saying it was nice to see something new and personal since they have seen many standard ceremonies in the past. 

-overall we made a big point of focusing on family and the importance of family throughout the event and many people commented on how nice they thought that was. 

-we served bar food at the after party and everyone seemed psyched, and people have mentioned that to me since as something they really liked  

Anyway, I think my takeaway is just to make it as personal to you and your fiancé as you can, while creating a fun atmosphere for family and friends to eat and drink with you! Trying to make it the best wedding your guests have been to is probably too stressful (and likely not possible) so just focus on making it a great day that YOU would want to be a part of. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

A lot of the bigger aspects will come down to the personal preferences of your guests. My favorite wedding I’ve ever attended holds that title not for the ceremony or reception, but the afterparty, where we all day around eating pizza, drinking, and playing card games for hours. Our own wedding reception probably got mixed responses, although no one was rude enough to complain to us about any of it. We were in a park with a playground and basically had a giant picnic with burgers, hot dogs, and some vegetarian dishes. Several people commented on loving that it broke the mold of indoor evening wedding reception with pasta and a DJ–but I’m sure some people would have preferred the standard. We picked what fit us as a couple while making sure our guests were comfortable. If we’d tried to be all things to all people I think we just would’ve ended up unhappy.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

Once you focus on the little details that, in bridetalke “make our day special” is when you lose focus on  what makes your guests happy. As stated  above, be generous with good food and drink (as it relates to your specific reception) and host it all   at pretty place. And then , be a pretty bride to give us guests a show.

The rest of it* doesnt matter.

 

*card boxes and centerpieces  and groom cakes and favors and boring choreographed dances and unique invitations etc.

Also, by “be generous with food and drink” I dont mean host everyne at The Ritz. I mean get the best for your party. If  having a backyard Bbq, have it catered by the best bbq in town, and have enough to send leftovers home with some guests. Dont buy the crappy potatoe salad feom the Winn-Dixie, get the best n town, etc.

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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Rather than memorable, I would aim for meaningful. A wedding that is personalized for the couple will automatically be more memorable than one where the the bride copied the most outlandish ideas she could find on every wedding site.

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