(Closed) Mostly just venting about my brother (long)

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

*hug* families are hard. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m so sorry you’re having such a rough time. *hugs*

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I can relate to you sort of.

My brother is also 3 years younger and we also have a rocky relationship. 

Things can be great but then things can turn nasty.

What I have usually found is that things are better left to time. 

If it is really hurting you, I would suggest inviting your brother to dinner. Just you and him. Talk to him about everything. Apologize for the things you feel you have done wrong. Don’t expect an apology back. Tell him that him doing a reading will mean the world to you. Don’t expect him to agree. Just go in with no expectations. 

This way, you leave the ball in his court. 

And if you want to make things alright with his girlfriend, you can also meet with her. Writing emails can often be misinterpreted.

Good luck with everything! 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Try to have all 4 of you meet up again for coffee or something and try to sort this out if it really is that important to you. The reason I want you to take your Fiance with you is because he is very much a part of your family now and should be there to support you when you go see your erratic and unpredictable brother.

This will all get better with time. I just know it. Some ppl just LOVE TO STIR UP SH*T during wedding season. Trust me, I know. I got a few of those who did that to me.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

๐Ÿ™  Sorry you have to go through this.  Family sometimes is hard…

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@TrooUPnorthe: There’s really nothing you can do to make him do a reading at the wedding – honestly, I’m not quite sure why you even want him to when it sounds like he has been much less than supportive of you and your Fiance. And come on, if someone wrote your Fiance an e-mail saying that he is too good for you and that they wish he could see the side of you that is so mean to everyone…you probably wouldn’t do a reading at their wedding either. Whether or not he deserved that letter (not enough background info to really say one way or another), I don’t see how you’re surprised that he won’t read at your wedding after you sent his gf an e-mail specifically to put him down.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

omg. I may PM you someday. We are in a similar situation with letting a family member live in our house. I’m so sorry this is an issue for you. It’s so hard to try to help people out and then crap backfires.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@TrooUPnorthe: Oh man, I totally misread a line- where you said you think she is good for him, I read too good for him! It makes more sense now.

But I would still probably not push the issue. I doubt he’ll change his mind, and the more times he says no the worse you’ll feel =/

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@TrooUPnorthe: That is really good to hear!!!! Hope everything works out!

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