(Closed) Mother brushing things off about a future wedding?

posted 11 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
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2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

My mom’s still brushing things off and I AM engaged. She keeps saying I shouldn’t be planning things now because I’m just going to change my mind (we’re not getting married for 3/4 years).

ETA: That said, it does suck when your mom isn’t being totally supportive. =/ Hang in there! Eventually she’ll get excited. 

Post # 18
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2324 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

@Jenniphyr~I can see why your mother wants to wait. 3 or 4 years is a ton of time. No telling what can change. Venues can come and go, vendors could go out of business.

Post # 19
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83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Even after my now fiance asked my father for his blessing about a year before we got engaged, my mother would sometimes change the subject if I started talking about anything wedding-related. Other times she’d send me pictures of possible wedding dresses and venues. Now that we’re officially engaged, she’s all over the wedding. In fact, the day after it happened I was back home and she had already started a guest list. 🙂

I think it’s a big deal to have that ring on your finger or get proposed to officially because then you enter into an agreement to marry. It’s official. I think for parents who only want to see the best for us, they will believe it when they see it. Honestly, now that I’m into the wedding planning it’s another issue. We seem to go from one obsession to the next. You should really try to enjoy the innocence of your relationship now, because there will be no turning back once you’re engaged.

I really don’t see anything wrong with any of the comments you said your mother said. It sounds like she just wants you to be patient and take this one step at a time. Nothing wrong with that.

Post # 20
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4 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I know exactly how this is – my wedding is just over a year and a half away; not TOO far off, but with our limited budget I am starting to plan simply so that I know how much things are going to cost so we can take it "one step at a time." Every time I try to bring up planning to my mother she responds with "Well no need to think about it now." and then goes on to a new subject. It’s a little disconcerting. =/

Post # 22
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14181 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Hurrah!!! I think parents in general have an "i’ll believe it when I see it" sort of attitude anyways. I’m so glad she’s on board! My mom recently jumped on board about 6 months into my engagement and it really is nice =]

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