Post # 17
My mom’s still brushing things off and I AM engaged. She keeps saying I shouldn’t be planning things now because I’m just going to change my mind (we’re not getting married for 3/4 years).
ETA: That said, it does suck when your mom isn’t being totally supportive. =/ Hang in there! Eventually she’ll get excited.
Post # 18
@Jenniphyr~I can see why your mother wants to wait. 3 or 4 years is a ton of time. No telling what can change. Venues can come and go, vendors could go out of business.
Post # 19
Even after my now fiance asked my father for his blessing about a year before we got engaged, my mother would sometimes change the subject if I started talking about anything wedding-related. Other times she’d send me pictures of possible wedding dresses and venues. Now that we’re officially engaged, she’s all over the wedding. In fact, the day after it happened I was back home and she had already started a guest list. 🙂
I think it’s a big deal to have that ring on your finger or get proposed to officially because then you enter into an agreement to marry. It’s official. I think for parents who only want to see the best for us, they will believe it when they see it. Honestly, now that I’m into the wedding planning it’s another issue. We seem to go from one obsession to the next. You should really try to enjoy the innocence of your relationship now, because there will be no turning back once you’re engaged.
I really don’t see anything wrong with any of the comments you said your mother said. It sounds like she just wants you to be patient and take this one step at a time. Nothing wrong with that.
Post # 20
I know exactly how this is – my wedding is just over a year and a half away; not TOO far off, but with our limited budget I am starting to plan simply so that I know how much things are going to cost so we can take it "one step at a time." Every time I try to bring up planning to my mother she responds with "Well no need to think about it now." and then goes on to a new subject. It’s a little disconcerting. =/
Post # 21
Thanks ladies! I’m now engaged and should have updated about a month ago. My mother I think realized how committed we were to each other and something changed with her too. She now finds stuff and will point it out to me. I’m really happy that she finally jumped on board; however, she doesn’t know I’m engaged yet. My Fiance asked my dad for his blessing and this coming Saturday my mom, her husband and the rest of the family will know the big surprise! Yeah! Thanks for all the support.
Post # 22
Hurrah!!! I think parents in general have an "i’ll believe it when I see it" sort of attitude anyways. I’m so glad she’s on board! My mom recently jumped on board about 6 months into my engagement and it really is nice =]