- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
Need some perspective – I’m very open to the fact that I may be in the wrong here, so all opinions are welcome!
My mother’s family is full of drama. Every family event we’ve gone to ends in tears and yelling of some sort. We don’t see them very often, and my mom has expressed a desire to stay away from family events.
I made it clear to her even before I was engaged that I didn’t want her family at the wedding. She said it was perfectly fine. However, now that she knows how many people from my dad’s side are going (they’re divorced), she said she feels alone and feels it’s not fair that he gets so many people and she doesn’t. We’re also doing this with my fiance’s family. His mothers side is invited, but his father’s side is not – for the same reason. His parents are fine with this.
She’s especially upset that I’m inviting my step siblings from my dad’s remarriage. She feels it’s not fair to her that she has to be alone and my dad gets everyone there (keep in mind, her brother, sister, and all my siblings will be there too). I realize our guest list is unconventional – we don’t have a consistent pattern of “aunts and uncles, but no cousins” or “siblings only, but no children of siblings”, etc. But we invited people who we see often and who we are close to. This isn’t the first time she’s gotten upset at me – she’s made a lot of this wedding about her feelings, and I’ve tried to be sympathetic.
She’s not contributing to the wedding due to financial difficulties, and my dad is contributing a lot. AND he’s paying for our honeymoon flights.
I’m not sure what to do!