Post # 1
Like most brides, my mother has generously agreed to purchase my wedding dress. When i learned of this, I was beyond happy this expense wasn’t somehing I would be responsbile for. However just like the phrase, “Nothing Is Free!”, this is so true to my situation.
When trying on dresses, my mother did not like my choices & I did not like her choices. At the end of the shopping, I remained firm on my selection. Now my mother is unsure she wants to buy the dress I want because I want to make a few alterations to better suite my figure.
Should a dress selection be controlled by the person paying for the dress?
Post # 3
Um, no. Unless she said upfront that she’d only pay for it if she liked it or approved of it, then NO. Really?
Post # 4
^^ agreed. Her paying for your dress isn’t her dictating what you choose. Granted I never met a bride who didnt long for her mothers approval.
Dress selection should be controlled by the individial who will wear it.
Post # 5
I can’t stand when people say they will help with something and then back-out because it’s not what they want.
This is YOUR dress and you’re wearing it on YOUR day.
If she is not happy with your selection I would just politely decline her offer.
Post # 6
@superh2ogirl: agreed!!! if she is being that unthoughtful about it, then i would just politely decline her offer… that’s ridiculous that she’s trying to back out of paying for it just because it’s not her favorite!!! 🙁
Post # 7
I’d talk to her (away from shopping) and say “I love to hear your opinions, and I really take them into consideration, but this is ultimately my choice, and I want my dress to be something that gives me *that* once-in-a-lifetime feeling. Be nice but firm.
Post # 8
There is a difference between what’s right, and what is. Everyone would probably agree your mom should not control the dress selection, but the reality is that she is. All you can do is talk to her. If she doesn’t see things your way, buy your own dress.