(Closed) Mother Controlling Dress Selection

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
5778 posts
Bee Keeper

Um, no. Unless she said upfront that she’d only pay for it if she liked it or approved of it, then NO. Really?

Post # 4
5423 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

^^ agreed.  Her paying for your dress isn’t her dictating what you choose.  Granted I never met a bride who didnt long for her mothers approval. 

Dress selection should be controlled by the individial who will wear it.

Post # 5
428 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I can’t stand when people say they will help with something and then back-out because it’s not what they want.

This is YOUR dress and you’re wearing it on YOUR day.

If she is not happy with your selection I would just politely decline her offer.

Post # 6
538 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@superh2ogirl: agreed!!! if she is being that unthoughtful about it, then i would just politely decline her offer… that’s ridiculous that she’s trying to back out of paying for it just because it’s not her favorite!!! 🙁

Post # 7
6512 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’d talk to her (away from shopping) and say “I love to hear your opinions, and I really take them into consideration, but this is ultimately my choice, and I want my dress to be something that gives me *that* once-in-a-lifetime feeling.  Be nice but firm. 

Post # 8
2442 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

There is a difference between what’s right, and what is.  Everyone would probably agree your mom should not control the dress selection, but the reality is that she is.  All you can do is talk to her.  If she doesn’t see things your way, buy your own dress.  

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