(Closed) Mother doesn’t want to give the photographer a seat

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should the photographer have an assigned table/seat at the reception?
    NO, he's there to work! : (45 votes)
    29 %
    Yes, he's going to photograph food details and you don't want pictures of guests eating anyway. : (98 votes)
    62 %
    Not sure (Explain...) : (14 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Check your contract. I’d be shocked if it didn’t require he at least be fed (if not specifically sat in the dining room). I think the seating assignment is less of an issue (photogs always find a place to perch if necessary, although giving hi a place is nice)… but you have to feed him. No question on that. 

    Post # 4
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I think the photog should be fed but not seated with your guests. There has to be somewhere else he/she can eat quickly.

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    our venue/caterer (it was the same in our case) set up a separate spread for our vendors’ meals–this included the photographer, dj, doc, and videographer. it cost a lot less than a seated meal, and it gave them a separate space for their food break. i think that’s fairly standard among venues, i’ve heard of it from other people too. i’d ask your venue and/or caterer about “vendor meals”

    Post # 6
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We are having two photographers, a dj, a piano player/singer and an MC. They are all sitting at a separate table and they will be fed even though the reception is only 4 hours (photographers will be with us for 9 hours). I think it’s common courtesy to give people a place to take a breather and to eat something, they are not slaves. Also, there will be periods in the wedding when there’s nothing to photograph, like when people are eating for example, so it’s totally natural for a photographer to take a seat and have a bite to eat.

    Post # 7
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

    Happy photographer probably equals better experience for YOU, so I’d see about setting up a base camp for him, maybe near the DJ booth or band (if you’re having one)?

    Post # 8
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Our contract with our photography team required a full meal (not a vendor meal) so I seated them at a table in the corner with miscellaneous other guests I didn’t know what to do with. Unfortunately they didn’t take photos of each course as it came out, but I got loads of photos of the prep and our chef which was pretty cool. In any case, I was happy for them to take a break, they were working really hard! Also keep in mind that during your reception they’ll be taking photos of the speeches, so it’s not a big break!

    Post # 9
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    Honey bee

    Most photogs I have seen require food, but not a seat with the guests, just a seat, which can be in a staging area or other locale. They do need to eat while sitting, but as long as they have a spot (and they know where that is) it doesnt have to be with your guests.

    Ask your venue what they provide for a space.

    My photog ate our regular food, but it was passed apps and stations for a few hours so, like the guests, he ate when he was hungry.

    Post # 10
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    Bee Keeper

    OMG mama funnel cake! The photog is a person you know! LOL Do you have a vendor’s table? If not, I say just put a seat out for him with the guests. I would really like to see pics of my food and the waitstaff serving from a guest’s perspective. 

    Post # 11
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    5761 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Of course you feed him, but seated with the guests? NO. Your Mama is right on this one.

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    My coordinator told me that photographers and DJs prefer NOT to be sat with guests because it’s awkward and they’d rather be by themselves.

    Mine will eat in the cocktail area while guests are in the dining room, although they’ll all eat the same meal.

    Also, I was sat with a photographer at a wedding and it was weird because for most of the wedding we had an empty spot at our table

    Post # 13
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    The venues usually provide vendor meals for photographer, dj’s, etc. My guests meals were 100+ and the vendor meals were only $25. There is usually a setup somewhere for the vendor to have a quick bite to eat.

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We did provide a meal for both the primary and secondary photographer, but they didn’t sit with the guests. Our venue was a farm and they had picnic tables outside that the photographers sat at to eat. Part of me would have loved to be outside eating. I agree with others and check with your venue ot see what seating options there might be, also check with the photographer and see if they have a preference.

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @roxy821: Yep, this is exactly what I was going to say… Our venue provides a table for the vendors that’s sort of tucked away and they feed them the same thing guests are getting, but they’re not allowed to drink any alcohol.  I think they’re charging us $30/vendor.  They had us include it in the final counts, but not on the seating chart.

    Post # 16
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I would feed the photographer, but not assign him a seat in the reception.  At our venue our vendors were fed, but ate separately just outside of the reception room.

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