(Closed) Mother doesn’t want to give the photographer a seat

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should the photographer have an assigned table/seat at the reception?
    NO, he's there to work! : (45 votes)
    29 %
    Yes, he's going to photograph food details and you don't want pictures of guests eating anyway. : (98 votes)
    62 %
    Not sure (Explain...) : (14 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 46
    1604 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Calgary, your making new clients shouldn’t be the focus of a bride.  Most venues have a vendor meal, and you can be seated in a separate area.  I would not want a guest table to have a vendor at it.

    Post # 47
    3973 posts
    Honey bee

    For goodness sake don’t treat your photogrpaher like leper.  He/ She is performaing a very valuable serivce for you.  Do you want them to have to leave to go home for dinneror soldier on feeling hungry? Of course not!  Sit them out the back and they will feel excluded ( duh!!!) and miss the action, posibly missing some shots.

    Post # 48
    13707 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I gave meals to all of our vendors, but I did not give them a seat in the reception.  They were more than welcome to go and eat in the back areas of the venue, but not in front of my guests.

    Post # 49
    758 posts
    Busy bee

    I personally would be fine if the photographer was sitting at the table, but our venue is offering free vendor meals if they aren’t seated at the table (they eat with all of the catering staff), so we went that route. 

    As long as they get a good meal, I doubt they’ll care where they sit, so it’s worth seeing what the caterer offers in the way of vendor meals, and then making your decision.

    One thing that is definite is you should be feeding your photographer (unless they’re only there for 1-2 hours, in which case it wouldn’t be expected).

    Post # 50
    4037 posts
    Honey bee

    Separate table, sometimes separate room = vendors meals. Usually much cheaper than guest meals.

    I had 7 cancellations (after the final numbers were in), so I fed the 5-piece band, at a separate table the venue set up. The 2 photographers sat at the cousin’s table, at cancelled seats. The band didn’t require it, in their contract, since they were local and only performed for 5 hours. Most photographers and videographers are with you for something like 8 hours. It’s nice to feed them, and if you have a no-show, which everyone does, it might be easiest to sit them in that seat. Most require a meal, in their contracts.


    Post # 51
    1576 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I didn’t give any of my vendors seats at the guest tables. I hope that’s not wrong. That seems really weird to me. They aren’t part of the party. They aren’t guests. 

    But of course I fed all my vendors. My venue provided discounted vendor meals. I have no idea where they ate. And I love that I don’t know. My venue took care of all that stuff so I didn’t have to think about it.

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