(Closed) Mother Driving Me Crazy / Vent + Advice Needed!

posted 5 years ago in Favors
Post # 3
1589 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

That’s annoying. Though I can’t imagine not inviting Aunts and Uncles to the wedding. But every family is different I guess. I know mine is far from perfect.


Anyway, honestly, if they are decently close, I might ask the friend if she wouldn’t mind making a few more. Tell her to be honest with you. If she does mind, just tell your mother that she’s only making enough for the guests. 


Post # 4
3755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I think it’s a bit insulting to send a favor to a non-invited guest I imagine some of them are already offended that they are not invited, and to send them a token from a day they missed out on is like an additional slap in the face. Your mom is so upset that they aren’t invited, that she thinks this is a last ditch nice gesture, when really I don’t think it could be any more of the opposite. 

Post # 5
9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Tell her that if she wants to do that on her own then fine but the lady making the truffles is doing it as a favor and cannot make more than 56 so your mom will need to figure something else out for the extras.  On a side note, I would be weirded out to get a favor from a wedding I wasn’t invited to and didn’t attend.

Post # 8
720 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It sounds like your mom is overstepping, which must be so annoying. Like PP, I would be really weirded out to receive a take-home from a wedding I didn’t attend. Personally, I wouldn’t encourage her to find a way to get the extra truffles – this is just going to create an awkward situation. I think you need to be firm on this one, OP – no send-homes for non-invitees.

Post # 9
504 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

poor etiquette to give a favor to someone who isn’t invited. I personally would be more offended by that than not getting invited

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