Thank you for all your responses!
Just wanted to post an update: my parents last day at our place didn’t go well. Apparently, my mother asked our babysitter what her phone number was so the babysitter can send her pictures. I doubt this was her intention, but the babysitter gave her number because she didn’t really know of my mother’s true intentions.
As we were on our way to the airport, she tried to call the babysitter to say goodbye. I wanted to ignore the fact that she has the babysitter’s number so I said she didn’t have to call because they were on their way back from the playground (“they” meaning babysitter and DD).
She then purposely showed me her phone and the babysitter’s number and said, “I’m going to call her.” I said, “no because they’re right in front of us already. They’re here!” She carried on and pressed the dial button to which I snapped and snatched the phone from her. I snapped because the purpose of letting me know that she does, in fact, have the babysitter’s number is to let me be aware that at any time, she can call her to badmouth me.
Fast forward to today, about a week after they had left, she texted one of my closest friends. Her words were, “I left your country with a pain in my heart.” My friend told me it’s really bad how my mother tries to get everyone, even MY friends, on her side and against me.
She has always been like this even when I was younger. During one of our fights, she tried to threaten me saying she be calling my boss, calling my friends, etc. She’s done this with my dad, too. She’s called his friends to “share” her feelings.
I think my mistake was I snapped at her and cussed. I didn’t cuss AT her, but I cussed at the situations saying, “I can’t fucking take this anymore.” She zeroed in on the F word and has been telling people about it. She has told my aunt (her sister) who lives in a different state. My aunt then called me to tell me that “I seemed to have forgotten my values and where I came from.”
She hasn’t heard a word from me and I don’t want to engage because I know that that’s what she’s looking for. But it seems like no matter how quiet I remain, she’s still looking for ways to wreak havoc into my life.