Post # 1
I’m in need of your support and advice. My mom was just diagnosed with cervical cancer that has spread to the lymph nodes. We are 3 months before my wedding and still have everything left to do. Has anyone gone through this? I’m having trouble focusing on the wedding when all I can think about is my mom. The doctors gave us a 50/50 chance, and I know she’s a fighter and will make it, but its just so difficult to think about anything else. Please, if anyone has any experiences with this, please let me know. And please keep her in your prayers – her name is Jennifer. Thank you so much.
Post # 3
I’m so sorry you have been given this news, 3 months before your wedding or not. My mother was diagnosed with breast cancer when I was about 14, and I remember being terrified because I didn’t really know what that meant. Luckily with radiation and surgery, she has been in remission ever since.
I’ll keep your mother in my thoughts. Best of luck to you and your family.
Post # 4
I am so so sorry to hear this. Planning a wedding is hard enough but having that thrown at you, that must be so hard. I’m sure your mom still wants you to have a perfect wedding. Focus on what you can. Just remember, your guests aren’t going to remember the details so don’t stress about that.
My dad was diagnosed with prostate cancer a few years ago and it was like a punch in the gut. He survived, and that was one of the happiest days of my life. Your mom sounds like a fighter. I’m sure she will come out on top. You and your family are in my thoughts
Post # 5
@AnaliseC: I have no advice for you but I am hoping for the best for you and your mother. My mother was dianosed with ovarian cancer 2 years ago, luckily it did not spread to her lymph nodes and she recovered well. I am hoping the same for your mother.
Post # 6
I’m so sorry to hear about your mom. It’s never easy to get that kind of news, no matter what else is going on in your life. You are both in my prayers.
I’ve never been in this situation so I can’t say for sure how I would handle it. However, I think my mom would appreciate being even more involved in the planning if she were diagnosed with cancer. Maybe you can use the wedding as an excuse to get some great, quality time in with your mom if she feels up for it. You should definitely be there for her emotionally if she needs to talk about it, but I know when one of my BMs lost her dad she was appreciative to just get out of the house and get her mind off it sometimes. Maybe your mom could benefit from that as well. Best of luck for a quick recovery for mom and a beautiful wedding for you!
Post # 7
I am so sorry for your mother and for what your family is enduring.
I just went through this with my dad. He was given 4-6 months to live back in January, and the wedding was to be in 5 months. He actually passed away at the 4 month mark. He passed away 2 weeks ago on June 1, 2012.
We cancelled our wedding back in March and I’m glad I did. I would hate to have to put on a wedding next month.
However, he had his cancer for 6 years total. He beat many odds during that time period and came through several grim reports despite such an unhealthy lifestyle. He had several rounds of chemo/radiation and surgeries over 6 years, but it kept coming back and ultimately got him in the end.
Does she have curative options?
Post # 8
=o( Good luck with everything. I’ll be sending positive thoughts.
Post # 9
Sending positive thoughts and prayers your way. I know how you feel though… and it’s very hard because it may feel like not that many people do. My mother was diagnosed with cancer for the first time in 2003. She had about 11lbs of tumor removed from her abdomen area. She was cancer free for 5 years, but unfortunately we all knew that eventually it would be back (98% chance). It came back 5 years later and we have been dealing with this ever since.
She now has two more tumors in her abdomen area that are being monitered closely, and the doctors will operate again, 3 weeks after our wedding. It’s really hard sometimes to be excited when all I can think about before I fall asleep at night is my mom being healthy, and being around for when I start to have kids. The doctor said she will be dealing with this for the rest of her life and that eventually there will be too much scar tissue, and as she gets older it will be more and more difficult to recover after surgeries (she is now 54 years old)
These are the moments that we need to realize how lucky we are to have our moms with us at this moment ,and not take them for granted. I spend as much time as I can with my mom, and treasure every minute. Again, I’m praying for you, and want to let you know if you ever need anyone to talk to, you can PM me.
Post # 10
I’m sorry, I know it is horrible to go through. My dad had prostate cancer about 4 years ago and luckily it was caught in stage 2, so it was removed by surgery and he has been cancer free ever since. They day I found out though I was a wreck. It’s hard when there is nothing you yourself can do to help. I pray for you and for your mother and family. Please keep us updated and know that many bee’s will be saying prayers for you.
Post # 11
My mom was going through treatment for her second bought with cancer before and during my first wedding. She had every single side effect from chemo and really low iron. The Doctor asked her how she was even standing up! She’s a tough lady, she was shopping and helping with crafts for my wedding. She danced at my wedding and had a good time. She had a slower growing tumour so they were able to schedule her chemo around the wedding so she would be feeling her best. It’s a tough thing to go through, but it is out of your control, you have to acept it and enjoy whatever time you have with her and lend your support. I know it’s easier said than done, but it’s for the best.