(Closed) Mother-in-law

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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29 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I wouldn’t say I dislike……but we both have strong personalities that collide at times. It’s hard because I feel like I’m making Fiance choose sides. Not fun. FI lives at home and there was a time (not to long ago actually) where I wasn’t allowed over to their house and she made it very difficult for us to see each other. That spell lasted about 2 years. Now our spats last maybe a week. I know there have been times I’ve been hurt by things she’s said or done and still have had to be the one to put my tail between my legs and be the first to apologize. Things have gotten better. We’ve learned to take each other as it is. I’ve learned that she’s like this with everyone not just me. Fiance promised that things would get better and they have. Immensly. She even picked out my dress for me and I LOVE IT! So although I’ve had to be the first one to make peace a lot of the times, Fiance has also stepped in and stood up to her and she’s backed down a lot. Either way an ugly situation. Just remember you don’t have to be best friends. Just need to be able to get along for a couple hours every month or so for a family dinner.

 

Post # 4
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3305 posts
Sugar bee

Just get along respectfully and cordially. And a shot or to before you have to be around her may help. It also helps if your fiancé defends you as then she may back down when she is doing something wrong.

Post # 5
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771 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@armychica06:  My Mother-In-Law is tough sometimes.  She has some problems “letting go” of her (29 year old) son.  Often times I feel she resents me.  She makes strange comments – “I’m his mother, you know,”  “He’ll always be my little boy,” etc.  Frankly, it creeps me out how some parents wind up resenting their adult children and their spouses for actually growing up.  But, I digress.

Rather than stew on this crap I decided to take her out and talk to her about it.  Give her a chance to put her fears out on the table, give me a chance to address them, and address her not so nice comments.

I feel like if you have a personal issue with your Mother-In-Law (meaning she takes her problems out on you) then you should feel comfortable confronting it.  I’m an adult, she is an adult, and we can talk like adults.

Post # 6
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601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I have Mother-In-Law problems, too, with no clear solution. ๐Ÿ™

Post # 6
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4040 posts
Honey bee

I’m not much of a help. I wrote mine out of my life 7.5 years ago, due to her narcissim, histrionics, favoritism, and all-over toxic behavior.

Insert a chorus of my singing “Free at Last.”

Post # 7
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1844 posts
Buzzing bee

This post is 3 years old.

Post # 8
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25 posts
Newbee

JemmaWRX:  ew this seriously grosses me out too and I deal with the same thing. It’s very odd to me. I pray I never act like that to my future son and his future wife whom I’m sure will be a lovely woman like myself!

 

I don’t know how to handle this crap either frankly. I had a blow out with them over Christmas and now I just really don’t want anything to do with them. 

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