(Closed) Mother in Law and Wedding Photograph Issues.. Kind of Long and a Vent. Advice?

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Good gosh. You said it first:

“His mother is a little passive aggrassive schrew who likes to play games.”

And you are playing right back. Toxic people are not people to play around with. Let them do as they do and be as the be (to a point) and don’t get entangled in their games. Give her what she requested, no more no less, and move on. Don’t get into a fight over it–that’s just going to be playing into her hands. It’s just a picture and it’s just a photo album and it’s HER photo album in the end (and why would you want to be in any photo album owned by this person?) What she’s doing is goading you into drama and it’s working. She is really not worth the consternation.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Unless the pics need to be ordered today, take some time and cool off before you do anything. Or, if it helps, order an enlargement, put it someplace safe, buy a pretty frame and that can be her holiday gift. But I wouldn’t dare show her that she got to you. You scored the man in the end, no?

(Truth be told, her reaction strikes me as so tragic it’s funny. The Mother-In-Law just married off her son and can’t come to grips that she doesn’t have her MEN any more so she’s reliving it through her son’s wedding photo album? That’s like Baby Jane tragic 🙂

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Instead of asking which one they wanted, we chose for them and we gave them a picture frame.  So my Mother-In-Law was given a picture of the 3 of us but I can bet you $500 it went to the trash and instead there is a picture of her and Darling Husband.  Now, I could care less what pictures she has and doesn’t have in her room.  As much as she hates me, the last thing I would want in my room is a pic of someone I hate, you know? 

I think at this point, I would leave it up to Darling Husband.  Let him decide.  Another option you have is to pick nothing for her and let her pick and pay out of her own pocket.

Post # 8
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129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I am sorry…people are petty! if she is so miserable then I would not pay for an album. My first Mother-In-Law was this way and in every photo she had a disaproving look on her face. So I just did not have photos of her inour house. Thankfully I am not married to him anymore so the point is mute. You can’t make people like you or put a picture of you in their house…I wish you luck and I would let her contact the photog herself with the photos she wants, this way you are not involved with her decision! Also, when things have cooled down I would let her know how her actions hurt you…she may change if you stand up for what you believe in. There is a quote that helps me:”STAND UP FOR WHAT YOU BELIEVE IN, EVEN IF YOU ARE STANDING ALONE”.

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