Post # 1
How do I explain to my future Mother-In-Law that I don’t want her to come my bachelorette party. I Invited my BMs and some other girl friends but she’s really upset because I won’t invite her. I just feel like it will be awkward with her there. What do I do people?
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church
@dessilove: I don’t really have any advice on this but FWIW, I somewhat feel your pain… My Mother-In-Law was determined that she was going to host my bachelorette party for me!!! Thankfully I was able to turn it into a bridal shower!
Post # 4
@dessilove: Eeeesh, why does she want to come? Is she a particularly party loving type of person?
Post # 5
That is awkward! What I suggest is maybe doing something with ALL of the close women in your family beforehand (moms, aunts, grandmas) and then break off with your girlfriends later in the evening. For my bachelorette, I had dinner with my aunts, grandmothers, god mother, mom, Future Mother-In-Law, and my BMs. Then after dinner, my BMs and I hit the bars and met up with other friends. So maybe you could do something like that.
Post # 6
@dessilove: Tell her you have consulted with your friends and none of them had their Mom or FMILat the bachelorette.
It’s unfortunate you have to deal with this. She should know better- both that she should not invite herself to anything, and that the bachelorette is for the bride and her friends, not the previous generation.
Post # 7
That’s seriously awkward. My Mother-In-Law is quite, well, prude, and it would be mortifying if she were there.
Post # 8
Sorry, Mother-In-Law – I just want to do this with my friends. Can I make it up to you somehow? Maybe we can go out for drinks or go dancing?
I think having the rain-check will help with her hurt feelings.
Though it’s cute she wants to go!
My friend’s mom came to her bachelorette, and we had a blast!
Post # 9
@dessilove: When my best friend got married and had her bachlorette party all the women were involved in a pre-party. Ate, gifts, cocktails… and then only a select few of us went out to the bar. NO moms of any sort!
Post # 10
@dessilove: I had this EXACT issue. My Mother-In-Law was seriously hurt that she wasn’t invited. I just explained that it wasn’t fair that she come if my mom wasn’t either. I then suggested a local “bachelorette ” wine tour that included family. Hopefully this is an idea you can use as well?
Post # 11
We’re planning an out of town party so Vegas or Miami so I kind of wanted to make a trip with my girls but she wants to be more of a family event. I love her but she’s been wanting to plan every event of this wedding.
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2017 - Baton Rouge, LA
as a frequent bridal party member, i told the bride to throw me under the bus as many times as she needed! I would tell her your BM’s are planning the party and they said friends only! I took plenty of blame for things the bride had control over & i was A-OK with it! lol
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta
Weeeeeeird! Why would she want to come?!
Post # 14
@dessilove: I mean plan a local “family bachelorette” party in addition to the ones with your girls.
Post # 15
Just tell her your friends are planning and they want it girls-only, no mothers. Your own mother isn’t even coming (right?).
I don’t think it’s necessarily weird if mothers want to go to this type of thing but it depends on the mother and bride in particular. No one should be feeling uncomfortable!
Post # 16
Does she actually understand what bachelorette parties are like? Because I can’t understand why she would ever think she should be included in that.