(Closed) Mother in law is pushing her beliefs on us

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
7560 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

This sounds like an annoying situation.

 How often are you around her? What does your Fiance think? If he thinks it’s crap why doesn’t he say something to her? 


Post # 5
2126 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Sorry, but she sounds like she has some issues…this is beyond just being spiritual…she may have some abnormal preocupations with “spirituality” she also lacks a filter, so it may be ndicitive or something more than just strong beleifs… maybe no one has realized it yet….so I wouldn’t take it personally, you just need to brush it off, make it clear you aren’t interested in what she believes. But seriously, if this has gotten worse over the years, you guys need to keep an eye on her. Usually if someone is mentally well, they easily respond to cues that maybe their beleifs aren’t appreciated, but if she keeps pushing it that’s even more of a sign of something gone wrong with her.

Also trust me, with someone dealing with stuff like this, you don’t share personal stuff with them. You don’t gossip with them, you don’t vent to them, you don’t tell them about your aches and pains because they will use it all. Trust me! 




Post # 6
1368 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

i am sorry you have a nut case on hand. She soumds like a bad case of spiritual leader. someone whis genuinely concerns about and wants to help others will not be saying just negative stuff like she’s doing. 

I would prob give up on the idea of creating a strong lasting relationship with this woman. She will bring you negative energy that you don’t want in your life. you don’t want any this crap around your future children, do you?

I like spiritual stuff. This type of crap she’s doing will not give her a good way to die. 

Post # 8
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

i guess i’m having a problem with … how can she be spiritual .. and cold to her family? 

Post # 9
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@gramgeek:  oh.. wow … This type of crap she’s doing will not give her a good way to die. 

can i live in your glass house? 

Post # 10
9114 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Nope nope nope. If this was a member of my family, I would put them in their place. I find their beliefs offensive, degrading, and dehumanizing. I would tell them that their beliefs are their beliefs and they are not welcome in my home.

So help me god if anyone put those “beliefs” on me. My husband would have to beat me to the punch because he’d be a lot more merciless than I would. I have zero tolerance for bullshit.

I’m sorry your Mother-In-Law has such a shitty outlook on life. I’d tell her how it is and tell her to keep your family out of it.

Post # 11
9950 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@stacymbell:  My suggestion is try ignoring her.  😉

Post # 12
1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Hahaha, if my mom had cancer and someone said she had brought it on herself, that person would probably get bitchslapped.

Not that that’s really a useful suggestion, but I think you and your husband could stand to be significantly less nice to her.

Post # 13
3885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

This may sound like off-the-wall advice, but you may want to get a copy of “God, No!” by Penn Jillette.  Magic act aside, he is one of the most highly visible athiests, and very well-written. I don’t agree with everything he says, but there is a chapter in his book about basically how to deal with it when a religious person says they will pray for you, and other ways people try to inflict their religious views on one another.  It was eye-opening for me, and changed the way I reacted when my devout Christian friends and family would try to preach to me.

It sounds like your Mother-In-Law has some fairly non-conformist, ecclectic beliefs. I’m not sure I would categorize her as “crazy” and without knowing more of the details I am not even sure I can categorize her as “rude.”  She may just genuinely believe these things and feel the need to preach and prostelethyze (an unattractice habit no matter what your faith is). Perhaps reading up on how one athiest chooses to handle these situations may give you some ideas on better handling your own.

Post # 14
2375 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’d tell her the same thing that I tell the crazy Christians – “I’m sorry, but that topic is not up for discussion”.  And then change the subject.  Wash, rinse, repeat.  Do not engage, do not discuss.  It only feeds them.  If she refuses to drop it, leave. 

Also, if she had said such a thing about MY mother, I’d have punched her right in the mouth.  There are some things worth going to jail for, that’s one of them.

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