- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
So my Mother-In-Law has been living with us for over a year now. It started last year when she got fired from her job in Dallas, so she found a job here in Houston. At the same time, my fiance got accepted into nursing school and due to an intense class schedule, would have to cut back to working 24 hours a week. Not enough to pay the mortgage. We had just built and purchased our very own home-sweet-home. My fiance and his mom came to an agreement that she would move in with us and contribute $600/month to make up for the difference that he wasn’t gonna be earning for the next year. Well I would’ve preferred to get a second job than to have her move in with us. Nice lady but VERY annoying. So annoying that people try to avoid her sometimes. But nothing I could do except for smile and say “welcome roomie!”
A little vent:
His divorced parents have successful careers working for ExXon and Shell making over $100K a year and they never bothered to even pay for any of his college tuition or books. His father was too busy blowin his money on booze and women and his mother was so paranoid and claimed that paying for those costs was his father’s job. So she purposly didn’t pay for any school or books as some sort of sick way to get back at her ex husband. How rediculous was that? I thought parents were supposed to want to help their children succeed, especially if they could AFFORD IT!!!!
Since she never bothered to help out with school, I don’t understand why instead she just didn’t give my fiance a check every month for the lost wages we counted on to pay our morgage? Even after a year of monthly payments, it was still a lot less money than what I am paying for his nursing school, books, uniforms and nursing equiptment. I still ended up having to work lots of OT to be able to pay for both of our schools, since he couldn’t work. Nope, she wanted to move in instead. Lady, you make so much money by working in the oil industry, why are you moving in with your son and his soon to be wife? In reality, it is not extra income what she was giving us, it’s what he was previously making. To top it all off, she took over 3 of our 4 bedrooms!! 1 to sleep in, 1 she converted into her closet (racks and racks of cloths) and 1 as her tv/lounge room. Not to mention half of the garage, so I can’t park my car inside anymore. The thing that bothered us the most is that since she is SO loud, you can hear her entire gossip session every night over the phone with her sisters while we were trying to study. She has made it so difficult to focus on homework and studying. Even after asking her politely to quite down, she would eventually forget and raise her volume back up…for an entire year. One of the rooms she took over (without asking by the way) used to be our office, so we couldn’t study how we were used to, at a desk behind closed doors.
My fiance just graduated from Nursing school last month, but he doesn’t officially start his new job until mid July. The agreement was that she would stay until he graduated and then move out. However, she hasn’t even begun to start looking for a house (she wants to buy) and I know that process is going to take at least another 2-3 months at the sloth pace she does everything…Dear Lord…
Being a young, soon to be married couple, we want to have our alone time. We haven’t been able to enjoy any sort of privacy in over a year. I can’t even argue with my fiance how I would like to because she’s always there all in our business. I miss the joy of being able to walk out of my bedroom wearing whatever I want and sit on my couch without anyone asking me a million questions as soon as I step out. Yes, she is doing us a favor, but she is not even doing anything useful with all the money she is saving by living with us. She blows $500 a week on clothes, jewelry, and shoes. I mean seriously? Yet, I’m sacrificing so much in order to pay for his tuition. I LOVE him, and I know that I am doing this for both of our futures…no thanks to either of his parents.
Is anyone in a similar situation?