(Closed) Mother In Law NIGHTMARE!!!! PLEASE HELP!!!!

posted 10 years ago in Family
Post # 3
776 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Woooow your Future Mother-In-Law sounds like a realll dooozyy….I hate hate hate my Future Mother-In-Law too so I can only give you advice on what I do which is ignore her.  It sounds like all she wants is the be the center of attention and you being the bride is taking that away from her.  Dont play into her games its exactly what she wants!!!

Post # 4
624 posts
Busy bee

The good thing about this is that everyone knows she’s a peach and doesn’t think you are making this up 🙂

I don’t blame you one bit for not wanting to be around her…distance is a great thing!  How does your Fiance feel about her?  Does he want a relationship with her in the first place and you make him do things with her?  One solution would be to let him do what he really wants with her and that may be very limited contact in her life. 

I’m with Lovespearls…you are the bride, therefor she’s not #1.  I’m experiencing the same thing with my Future Mother-In-Law but this is always her thing when it comes to others life moments, birthdays, graduations, etc. 

Post # 5
41 posts
  • Wedding: May 2010

The good news is that you are marrying your fiance, not his mother. the bad news is that unless HE wants to cut her out of his life (which I doubt, and don’t reccommend) that she will be a part of your life until she passes on. Th eonly advice I have is to try to ignore her (I’m sure she thrives on the misery she causes you), and take comfort in the fact that others are on your side. Has your fiance said anything to her about it? Sadly, that might add fuel to her fire. I wish you luck!

Post # 6
2007 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Wow.  That is awful!  Unfortunately, other that killing her with kindness and being the bigger person like you have been (without being a pushover), I’m not sure there’s a whole lot you can do!  I’m so sorry!  Definitely be careful that this doesn’t start effecting your relationship in the future and good luck!!

Post # 7
2286 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I’m so sorry that you’re going through this! You are doing everything that you can by taking the high road. My hat is off to you for staying so kind when this is going on. Kudos for that! And thank goodness that you have the support of everyone else.

In 10 months time (though I’m sure this is the case now), you will be the most important person in your FI’s life. IMO, he should be standing up to his mother for you. Not in a nasty way (like your FMIL), but in a way that is respectful, firm, resolved, and united. I’m sure that he loves his mother, even if she does cause familial strife, but enough is enough.


Post # 8
418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

you and your Fiance need to just stay away from her… stop contacting her.. only return her calls if TOTALLY necessary – and make your Fiance talk to her only.

If she is going to behave this way to both you and her own son, then maybe she needs to be excluded for awhile so she can realize how awful she has been towards you two.

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