(Closed) Mother-In-Law sends worst email- Article

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@Take The Reins:  My jaw just hit the floor. Future Mother-In-Law and MIL’s like these terrify me. I’m so happy that I didnt manage to snag one. I love my Mother-In-Law even if she is unconventional! This reminds me of the slightly less snarky, Mother-In-Law that Dr. Phil had on his show a couple weeks ago.

 

I think in the end, the mother is the tacky one for sending this email–she sounds like the snarky version of the ettiquette lady that trolls the boards.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

The mom definitely is tacky, and yet I can’t help but agree with most of the stuff she wrote in the email. If the bride-to-be really did all of that stuff, I may be a little pissed (at the very least concerned) with her as well. I would not choose to express it in this way though. The Mother-In-Law just demonstrated the same lack of respect and tackiness she is accusing her future daughter in law of. She should have pulled her back one day and very nicely addressed those points with her. Fail on both sides…

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

WOW!!!!!! I’m glad my future mother in law is amazing!!! I feel bad for the ones who are getting a monster in law!!!

Post # 6
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1077 posts
Bumble bee

You do not take additional helpings without being invited to by your host.”

Is this one actually the polite thing to do? I have never heard that, it sounds really weird to me! I guess if there’s one slice left you shouldn’t take it without asking first, but if there’s plenty of food is that really an issue?

 

The Mother-In-Law was way out of line, that’s the sort of behavior that can be corrected without tearing the person to pieces over it. I think Wedinator actually did a follow-up on this story, I’ll try to hunt it down.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

That was harsh. A lot of the “manners” the Mother-In-Law described were things I never even knew. I’d hate to be a dinner guest at her house! She could have just kindly addressed her DIL in person and said something like, “Maybe you didn’t know, but in my house, we do this,” and then explained whatever it was she wanted the DIL to do. Blasting her in an e-mail is as crappy and rude as the behaviors she was trying to modify. She should be ashamed of herself. And complaining that the parents didn’t save money their whole lives to pay for their daughter’s wedding?! Maybe they are too poor to save that kind of money, or perhaps they saved it for something else, such as their daughter’s education. Ugh, this Mother-In-Law is a terrible person.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

WOW. I am so glad my fiance’s parents love me.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

What I thought was the funniest was the fact she was the STEPmom.  I would have told her to shove it where the sun don’t shine.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I agree with some of her statements. Some. But I didn’t know this:

You do not take additional helpings without being invited to by your host.”

Either way I find it funny that she’s pointing out this person’s lack of manners and tact but sent an e-mail lacking in any tact.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Thank god my SO’s parents aren’t crazy.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I also agree with a lot of her statements. Sounds like she was just tired of FDIL’s behavior and felt she needed to teach her some manners. Probably was just venting via email – and now wishing she didn’t put it out there in writing.  :-/  Please keep in mind that the Future Mother-In-Law is British and they do have a more “formal”, well mannered day-to-day – and higher expectations.

Post # 13
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215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Ouch!  My mother-in-law and father-in-law are both very wonderful people who I get along with very well.  I couldn’t imagine having a Future Mother-In-Law like that!

I think HER manners are worse than her FDIL’s!!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Hooray for the internet. That woman got what she deserved! “fall in line with the house norms” WTF! Who does she think she is? “nobody gets married in a castle unless they own it” – she obviously lives under a rock and certainly hasn’t visited Scotland lately. Mother-In-Law or not, nobody is allowed to speak down to me that way. I wonder if she has dinner guests often…

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

The diabetes thing from the full email floors me–truly. No wonder she’s a “picky eater”. My younger sister is a Type I diabetic and has been for 15 years–she too has to be picky due to her dietary restrictions.

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