(Closed) Mother IN LAW'S Wedding Dress

posted 4 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
9040 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

smallgirl94:  Talk to your SIL. Just tell her you want to be respectful , wanted to talk before doing anything and need her help in modernising the dress a little. 

Post # 3
838 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would think that it would be expected that you alter the dress, even more than just taking it in, or getting it hemned. It’s an 80’s dress! That’s probably the reason your SIL didn’t wear the dress :p

That being said, I would definitely ask. Just say “Hey, I would be totally honoured to wear you mother’s dress, but would you be insulted if I altered it considerably to be more modern?”

Post # 4
2878 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

smallgirl94: why not talk to your fsil about her thoughts / wishes?

Post # 5
1241 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

If I were you I would err on the side of caution and not make any changes to the dress. What if you just take some pictures in the dress but don’t wear it for the entire wedding day? Or, could you borrow a piece of jewelery or veil that was your MIL’s instead?

Post # 7
68 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - Glen Echo Park

smallgirl94:  Oh, totally — there are great tailors out there that specialize in this. I just saw an AMAZING 80s dress remake somewhere on these boards — a remake of the girl’s mothers dress. Don’t take it to just anybody – find a tailor you trust. You can create a lovely heirloom. 

Post # 8
2805 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Here is the link to the bee who just posted her photos of her wearing her moms 80’s dress. It’s pretty amazing how great it turned out!! 

I Wore My Mom's Dress! (Pic heavy)

Post # 9
133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

you should see the dress first before you make any decision. 

Post # 10
5365 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

I haven’t been in this situation, but something kinda similar. My Future Mother-In-Law also passed away almost 6 years ago (along with both my parents and I have no idea where my moms dress is). We wanted to use diamonds from her wedding set in mine. But Fiance has 2 younger sisters, but they’re twins so it’s kinda different. We just talked to them and also his stepdad about the ring and if they would be okay with us having it and basically tearing it apart. They were all happy to let me have it and let me do whatever I wanted with it. Hopefully it goes the same way for you! 

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