(Closed) Mother is being unreasonable and I'm getting frustrated

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 2
4040 posts
Honey bee

Good God! I’m a soon to be 2-time MOB and that’s some of the worst behavior I’ve heard. And while I hate graduations myself (didn’t attend my own college or graduate school ceremonies), I certainly attended for both of my children. My husband developed a frequently used phrase, for our 1st daughter’s wedding – “No pay, no say!” Your mother doesn’t have a say or opinion on anything, unless she offers to pay for it, and due to her track record, if I were you, I wouldn’t accept one cent. I think you should lower your expectations, for your mothers behavior and attending. Don’t include her in any decision making, and don’t tell her any of the details. The people who are invited to attend have their names written on the invitation. End of story!

And good luck to you! HUGGSSS!!!

Post # 3
97 posts
Worker bee

Really sorry to hear about your Mom, but as PP said, she doesnt have a say or opinion on your wedding day. You were never obligated to invite her friends, let alone their child. She definitely was trying to manipulate you to get what she wanted, and when you didnt conform, she got upset. At the end of the day this is your wedding, not hers, and you are allowed to have it as you so please. Stand firm on what you want, and dont let her get under your skin. All the best!

Post # 4
1844 posts
Buzzing bee

Is this how she usually rolls?  Is she known for emotional manipulation?  I think you handled her very well.

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