- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
So, i just had a call from my mother telling me that she is getting remarried in September. She and my dad separated in Dec 2010, with the divorce finalised 12 months later, and the man she is now marrying is the man who she cheated on my dad with for the last 8 months of their marriage. Their arrair wasnt necessarily physical, but more emotional and so she doesnt believe that she did anything wrong.
I have only just started to forgive her and can’t stand him at all, and she tells me today that they’re getting married. In September.
She actually said that she doesnt want to steal my thunder, but now her second wedding is taking place about 1 1/2 to 2 months before my first will be. I’m hurt in so many ways and feeling all kinds of anger and i just dont know what to do.
On the video call i hid my emotions so i could better handly the situation (she’s also lending me money for rent in the fall, so i can’t really afford to get on her bad side), but im a wreck and this is eating me up inside.
Has anyone been through anything like this? I feel like she’s betrayed me as she knows how i feel about him, and also, she’s going to be ruin some of the precious time i have to be happy in the lead up to my own wedding. I feel like this is very selfish of them. (and i know, i am probably being a bit selfish too, but they have known about my plans for months and its her second marriage).
anyway, i’d love some advice or words of encouragement. I’m really hurting
EDIT: I should point out that iI don’t actually care about people getting married before I do, like, if it was a friend of mine, that’d be fine, but its more that my mum has a way of making everything about her, and this feels like another attempt to put her finger in all of my special events to make them about her. At my first graduation, she spent the entire time on the phone to him (this was before we knew they were seeing each other), at my second graduation, she was horrible to my dad and made out that he was the one being a bad parent. It just feels like another attempt to make this all about her. And i also hate that he’ll legally be my step-father at my wedding.